Danielle - I am so sorry to hear about your Firend. I, like you, do not know what words to say but I CAN tell you that all of us that choose this surgery do not really understand that gravity of danger our lives are in until we loose someone from it. All we can think of is the benfits of being post-op. I hate it that she died but I like to beliee that notthing happens without a reason and maybe her death was there to give a wake up call to all of us that seem to forget how short and preciouslife really is and as a sign to all of the pre-ops that even thought this may be the choice they have chosen there are RISK and reprocussions to haing it - so be careful. I hope this has given you some plaitude but in case it has not please know that you are in my thoughts and you and your frined will both be in my prayers tonight.