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I decided on the 29Th of August 2010 to do the surgery,
Packed my suitcase and drove to San Diego on 30 Aug.
Frederico picked me up at the SD airport at 8:30 at night.
I was delivered to the hotel at 10:00.
Ernesto escorted me to hospital at 7:00 AM Tuesday.
I had my preop and surgery on the 31Th of August.
I left for home Friday morning and arrived at 6:00PM.
I never had time to think, I just knew I had to take care of this...I told no one but my mother.
My husband and children assumed I was on a trip to see my mother. I did see my mother
at an off ramp to hand me a cashiers check. I did not have time to get one for myself.
That was only what I was comfortable sharing.
I was a swimmer as a child and never had a weight problem. Until the age of eight I lived with my parents on the golf course with a live in nanny/housekeeper. I have three brothers and our mother was always there for us. Our parents divorced and we were at the poverty level. We had a sick live in sitter who did mean things to my brothers, as soon as my mother found out she was gone.
At nine years old we moved to Orange County, CA and there we stayed...forever. At the age of ten I was the caregiver for my brothers when I was not in school. I had many friends and was invited to many parties. It was fine when my brothers had someone with them but soon my mother and a babysitter were becoming more and more unavailable so I started eating and built up this wall of fat so people would not get close to me and I would not be invited to their parties keeping me free for my brothers.
I was a chubby until 14 then I was well endowed and curvy...boys and men began to notice. I soon had the power. At the age of 17 I joined the Air Force, I wanted to fly jets. I worked hard got promoted and went to college while working in the Air Force. I flew four campaigns fought the "Good Ol Boys" pretty hard to make my way into the cockpit. It was not easy but not only was I finally accepted I was actually a well respected aircrew member. I received a lot of attention from men and pretty much took what I wanted.
In 1987 I met the man, the man I still am married to today. Keeping extra weight on prevented me from flirting and kept other men at bay. So it was actually protection for my relationship with M. We had 3 wonderful children in 29 months and now I had an excuse for the extra weight. In 1992 I had an up and down relationship with the scale. Every crazy diet you could think of, I just could not lose the weight. We had an annual weigh in and I literally starved my self, ate Ex lax and melted what I could in a sauna. Quite a few times I could not make my weight or measure so I was on the fat girl program. The things I did to my body to either weigh or measure I am ashamed to repeat. In 2003 I retired with 24 years exemplary service, 5 campaigns and hundreds of friends I could call on in a minute.
I have a great husband and three fantastic children.
Recently a lot of negativity from my business partner, maybe shared later.
