Michelle

Aug 30, 2007

Hey all.....just got back from seeing Michelle, and what a trip that was. I enjoy going down when there is therepy going on, gives us something positive to do. We got there yesterday about 10:30am (I woke up late) and she was already in physical therepy. She is now on a schedule that lets here be in PT for an hour a day. She was working with an outside woman, seeing what she could do, so there was not too much room for any interaction with me. That was ok, there were other therepys we could get into. OT (Occupational) she did great, she was bowling! The interesting thing on that one was that when given the bowling ball, she instinctivly knew where to position her fingers. Her thumb went into the thumb hole and her middle and ring fingers went into the other two. I thought that was impressive, along with she was activly paricipating in pushing the ball down the ramp to hit the pins......

Today, we did some PT....seeing if she could sit by herself and she did with a little help. Lauren and Emily helped in getting her to turn her head to the left and heep it straight. She was actually doing a bit better today than yesterday. She also held a pen and made a few marks on the dry erase board, which she has not done in a month. She was also (kinda) extending her hand in order to gasp anything, a ball, a block, whatever was offered. The issue is letting go. I think she is trying, her hand will get to shaking real bad, but her brain will not let her release it for some reason (well, duh, she has a brain injury after all, guess that MAY contribute to it all). I could see some progress from the last time I was there, but it is SLOW. I am trying not to be impatient, but I KNOW someone is home. I was trying to get her to do something in speech therepy, and she fell right on to sleep. I told the therepist that if she woke the moment I left the room, I was gonna be mad, cause I knew she was ignoring me. Well, I got behind her chair, and the therepist said *Bye Dianna* and damn if the little shit didnt open her eyes!! She was purposly IGNORING me!! UGGH, same ol Michelle, without a way to communicate it......

Thanks to all of her friends (and mine) still praying for her. From what I know, the next insurance update is Sept 10, and if there is no progeress by then, there is a REAL possibility she will be back in Front Royal at that time. Living back at home with Bobbie and my brother taking care of her. I hope the insurance will give another three weeks, but if not, they will need some HELP (For those of you close by). Give Erick a call during normal business hours (before 9pm) to see what he may need......I will be there for her, since it is closer to me (By an hour and a half) and anything I can do to help, is a plus. I have learned a few tricks here and there to help her out, and for that I am grateful.

Other things going on? Too much to even list or complain about here. Seeing Michelle, I know things could be much worse in my world, but life goes on, and everything it entails. My birthday is tomorrow. Woo flippin woo.....too damned old to get excited over it, yet I do. That day and Christmas. and normally a let down of sorts on my bday. I am in my shell most of the time, but damn, I wanna go out, party it up with good friends, and have a blast! So, today I am depressed over tomorrow. The 31st usually cheers me up, but for the most part I have a love/hate thing going on with my birthday. I did get a sweet card already from my *other* hubbie who thought he wouldnt see me till after my bday, and in fact we have seen each other 3 times since! How funny is that? And we are supposed to meet tomorrow to get a little work done (I am still deciding on that one, it would require me to be up at 5:30 or so, and I am not sure I wanna do that on my bday!) so we shall see.........

Other than that, I am now getting back into my more spiritual side of life. I bought some *moon* inscence, a hermatite ring (to improve relationships ) and a red jasper stone to sleep on to keep away the bad things in the night and to help balance emotional energy. The first night I slept on the stone, damned thing gave me a headache, the second, my daughters lost it, so I guess I will have to go get another.......oh well, I will try again. I am going to find a good healing one for Michelle and send it to her, and see if they will leave it in her bed for her, and take good care of it.

I am out of here for now, thanks for reading if you read it all LOL......just a few ramblings and such......keep up the prayers....she need them

First blog

Aug 08, 2007

And what a blog it is going to be.  That way I wont be accused of perpetuating drama on the sex board, but damn.  I still need a chance to defend myself and tell my side of the story well enough for people to understand, and apparently I have not done such a good job at that to this point.  So I will lay it all out here in a nice orderly fashion, in hopes someone will see it and finally stick up for me.

Time line:

July 26 -- Cleve contacted Tom T in order to find out who he was.  Tom T contacted him back with a friends request.  Cleve still has the emails if anyone would like for him to forward them.  There is NOTHING to hide.  Cleve contacted Tom T after his post to Kimmy and her business name.  I remember this one clearly, Tom posted back to Kimmy *Need a drink to think* as her new business name, and that was AFTER she had told everyone in chat she had been sober 90 days.  He truly felt like he was sticking up for her in some way, and trying to do the board a favor by getting to know him, and befriending him. Both Cleve and I were pissed that Tom could say something like that, especially to Kim C.  Dante was even pissed, but choose one route, and Cleve took a whole nother path all together. (Like the post Tom made about 9-11 couldnt piss us off, this was the straw that broke the camels back) When the friends request came, we thought it was the beginning of a new *friendship*  At that point, I told Cleve I didnt think it was a great idea, and he should just stop, but he wanted to see how far it would go.

July 27 -- Here comes chat.  Well, at the beginning of chat that night, Cleve discussed with me about the possibility of coming into the room under an assumed name and seeing if he could befriend Tom.  In some world that made sense to him, and again, I didnt get a good feeling about it.  I told him I wanted a second and a third opinion (Being Mikey and Nick) and I asked them either through PM or Mail (Drinking makes you forget details......small but important ones for the purpose of this blog, I apologize)  Both Cleve and I got the go ahead that they would have our backs if anything was said (Again, Cleve has the email proof if anyone would like and/or need to see it)  In fact if I am not mistaken, he said it right in chat as bkhunter.  The go ahead was given, and Cleve logged out and back in as WholeAss......some in the room knew what was going on (Or should have, since they were warned that WholeAss was coming back in to draw Tom out of the woodwork, and said go for it)  At that point I am assuming that I Pm'd Mitch as well, to let her into the loop.  If I was not clear about the intentions of WholeAss, that is on me and my wine.  In all of the excitement and talking to multiple people at once, I didnt really get the chance to see what Cleve was typing out under his assumed name.  Hell, Mikey was a friend on Cleve's page for a min so Cleve could forward the emails he had chatted with Tom on, so Mikey would be on the same page.  Mikey quickly deleted Cleve as a friend as to not show Tom that they were friendly in any way.  By the end of this little chat with WholeAss, Tom never showed an interest (He was in the room, just watching this train wreck, prolly laughing his ass off) so Cleve went back to being BK.........

Aug 3 -- Post entitled *nick names*  Yup, this past weekend Cleve posted to that saying his nickname was WholeAss, so anyone to put two and two together, thinks that Friday night chat jerk from the previous week.  Thinks.  They had no idea what was going on behind the scenes, and the few that did opted to out an innocent man and I, or not speak up at all on the subject.

Conclusion

This was all one HELL of a huge misunderstanding, stemming from the friendship Cleve feels for Kimmy, and from the drinking that was going on that night.  I am NOT ready to give up my family just yet.  Just like some people in your own families make some really dumb mistakes, we hit an all time high on this one.  Cleve wanted to find out once and for all who this asshole was, and went about it the wrong way.  It ended up exactly like I thought it would, which is why I asked for the support of those who would really like to know who the real TomT is.......And believe me, he is not done.  He will wait for the dust to settle, and I would advise to do everything in your power to find out who the REAL TomT is.....or it will continue to happen.

Extended Family

At this point I have been in contact will all but one, and I expect to hear from him sometime soon. They KNOW this is BS.....and all have said they are behind me.  There is NO way we could do that......you are like my family, and Cleve was only trying to become accepted into his new extended family.  He has tried for the past year, some have accepted him, others have not.  I tell him lots of times to keep his opinions to himself, and at this point, I am not sure why I ever did that.  I didnt want his opinions to be passed off as my own I suppose.  I went back to see if Toms posts were still there so I could have hard evidence that we had nothing to do with this, because I KNOW this jerk made posts while both Cleve and I were at work.  And we dont have the jobs with computers, he is in construction, and I drive a damned bus.  No chance to be posting on OH at those moments, but he is now gone, and I cannot possibly get that information back.  There are those out there who insist I let this go, but damn it, I have not even had 24 hours to digest this, while everyone else has had since Mondays post to mull it over.  So at this point, I will leave it alone, unless Cleve comes home and has more to add.......I wish I had the love and trust of my family again.....Nick, you made a mistake

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