Daddy Dearest

Mar 05, 2009

A big step yesterday:  I told my father I'm having WLS.  This is a really big step for me:  up to now, I've not told anyone in my family that I'm having surgery (although I THINK they MAY have noticed that I'm fat! LOL).  My husband knows and is awesomely supportive (thank God) and my closest friends all know as well.  That's about it.  I was very, very worried about telling my folks, particularly because I feel like I've always been a bit of a disappointment -- mainly to my dad -- because of my weight.  Before anyone gets indignant at all, please know he's never said anything to me or been insulting or disparaging about my weight -- in fact, it really isn't discussed and my dad is really very supportive, in general.  I think I feel this way because I take after my aunt a great deal, including physically, and I remember being very young and hearing my dad ranting and raving about her being "a 300 lb blimp" to my mom one afternoon after visiting.  So I worry about reactions.  Add to that the fact that my dad AND stepmom are both medical professionals and, well, I was nervous but figured I needed to tell him sometime.

As it turns out, I needn't have been scared -- my dad was SO SUPPORTIVE!!  He told me he was proud of me for making this choice and that I had his and stepmom's support.  He even thanked me three or four times for telling him and sharing my thoughts with him!  It was so, so, SO much better than I thought, and I still can't believe how relieved and unburdened I felt (feel) now that he knows. 

Of course, next to tell is my mom and, given the nature of our relationship, it isn't going to be pretty.  I think I'll hold on that one as long as I can ...

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