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Hello My Friends,

We have had some very scary news. My Mom has had some episodes of aphasia (inability to speak or say words). She finally went to the doctor who thought she had had a mini stroke (s). He wanted her to see a neurologist and have a CAT Scan and MRI. Today we found out that she has a brain tumor. The doc says it's been growing for about 20 years! Right now it is pressing on the speech center of her brain. Hence the aphasia. Anyway, she has to go for a consult witth the neurosurgeon Friday and will be having brain surgery next week. The doc said that the tomor appears to be benign! That's the good part.

I am frightened beyond belief! BUT I am sending out positive energy to the Universe and am praying that all is OK. The worst part is hearing how depressed my parents sound.

Please send all your prayers, wishes, white light to whomever you pray to. Send white healing light to her!

Thank you friends. I don't really want to talk right now because I am really, really trying to keep it together!

I am not able to complete the challenge. Just not into it.

I just got my HYPNOTHERAPY CERTIFICATION this week! So, I am working on positive, healing energies. Perhaps, it was meant to be that I was able to have a wonderful healing experience this weekend. Now, I can send my new found healing energy to my family and all of you!!

Much love!!!

Saint Theresa is known as the Saint of the Little Ways, meaning she believed in doing the little things in life well and with great love.

She is represented by roses. May everyone who receives this message be blessed.

Prayer is one of the best free gifts we receive. Please read the prayer below.

Saint Theresa's Prayer

May today there be peace within you.

May you trust that you are exactly where you are meant to be.

May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born of faith.

May you use those gifts that you have received, and pass on the love that has been given to you.

May you be content knowing this. Let this presence settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom to sing, dance, praise and love.

Remember it is there for each and every one of us.

FROM ANRED.COM

Some things to do

Talk to the person when you are calm, not when you are frustrated or emotional. Be kind. Underneath the denial and bravado, the person is probably ashamed and fears criticism and rejection.

Mention evidence you have heard or seen that suggests disordered eating. Don't dwell on appearance or weight. Instead talk about health, relationships (withdrawal?), and mood.

Realize that the person will not change until s/he wants to.

Provide information. Show the person this Web site.

Be supportive and caring. Be a good listener and don't give advice unless you are asked to do so. Even then be prepared to have it ignored.

Continue to suggest professional help. Don't pester, but don't give up either.

Ask: "Is doing what you are doing really working to get you what you want?"

Talk about the advantages of recovery and a normal life.

Agree that recovery is hard, but emphasize that many people have done it.

If s/he is frightened to see a counselor, offer to go with her the first time.

Realize that recovery is the person's responsibility, not yours.

Resist guilt. Do the best you can and then be gentle with yourself.

Some things not to do

Never nag, plead, beg, bribe, threaten or manipulate. These things don't work.

Avoid power struggles. You will lose.

Never criticize or shame. These tactics are cruel, and the person will withdraw.

Don't pry. Respect privacy.

Don't be a food monitor. You will create resentment and distance in the relationship.

Don't try to control. The person will withdraw and ultimately outwit you.

Don't waste time trying to reassure your friend that s/he is not fat. S/he will not be convinced.

Don't get involved in endless conversations about weight, food and calories. That just makes matters worse.

Don't give advice unless asked.

Don't expect the person to follow your advice even if s/he asked for it.

Don't say, "You are too thin." S/he will secretly celebrate.

Don't say, "It's good you have gained weight." S/he will lose it.

Don't let the person always decide when, what and where you will eat. She should not control everything, every time.

Don't ignore stolen food and evidence of purging. Insist on responsibility.

Don't overestimate what you can accomplish.

Hi all!

Well, it's been quite a while since I have updated. I have been spending quite a lot of time on line and at QUIX. OH has seen a lot of changes since I first started here in 2002. I guess all things must change. Only, I have never liked change. Never. 

Lots of things have happened over the last few months. I have been working hard on making money and finding alternatives to making money through my boss. She's been having some financial problems and they have effected us (those who work for her). Did I agree? NO! It has made me want to be financially stable more then ever. I don't want to be ten years older and not being able to pay my bills or my employees. 

It's been so hard. I have also been triggered by hunger and shopping urges. Once I get the shopping under control I want to eat and visa verse!!

I was speaking with my therapist today. I told her that I was able to quit smoking easily...why couldn't I "quit" eating and shopping. She reminded me that eating and shopping (getting presents for accomplishments, as a reward, or as a comfort) were with in me since childhood. Early coping mechanisms are the hardest to change. 

So, lately I have been struggling with  cravings. It's been hard. I am studying for my licensing exams and that causes anxiety. Anxiety causes my cravings. Being on anti-anxiety medications hasn't done the trick. They worked for a while, but only I am going to speak to a new psychiatrist about using a selective serotonin norepinephrine reuptake inhibitor (SNRI) and possibly naltrexone SR. I have been reading about the bupropion SR/naltrexone SR combination for obesity. All I want is to find some sort of chemical balance so I won't have these intense anxiety/craving feelings. 

Not that there is a magic pill...that's not what I am looking for. I am looking for balance so I won't swing from anxiety to craving to depression to anxiety.....

So, for now I continue my search for BALANCE. 

I have gained 40 pounds and holding. It's hard to say. I cannot see my surgeon until March when I can change my PCP to the group that includes Cedars Sinai. Then I will be able to see the surgeon on the bariatric  unit. I really don't want a revision, but I do want to get checked to make sure there are no staple line disruptions or anything else. I have had my labs done but have not been to see my surgeon in two years. HMO's are SO GREAT!!

So, my friends. That's what's been going on. I continue to work with my patients and speak out about transfer of addiction. I did a story for a German Magazine two weeks ago. I'll be doing another one for a London mag next month. I just want people to know that this can happen. There really is a psychological chemical component that some people have. There are so many causes to obesity and addiction. 

Here's to all of you and hoping that 2008 is full of promise, health and blessings!

Much love, 

Marcy

Update 9/8/07

Fo those who have followed my addiction transfer saga. I have now paid back $20,000 of the $40,000 debt. I have paid rent and bills on time for almost one year and am back on track exercising and eating well again. Carbs are the enemy BUT I am getting better at fighting the urges off.

I also take 850 mg of L-tyrosine and 750 mg of GABA daily. My anxiety is greatly deminished by taking these amino acids.

-Marcy

My sweet boy is an angel now. I'll miss you baby!

Rainbow Bridge

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

Author unknown...

Girls with anxiety problems are twice as likely to have an eating disorder as adults.

-National Association of Eating Disorders