Why I don't post here much anymore...

Dec 27, 2008

I replied to this thread about not having enough comraderie on the RNY board anymore. 


http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/rny/a,messageboard/action,replies/board_id,5465/cat_id,5065/topic_id,3819508/



Want to know why I recommend people talking to their doctors rather then a message board? 

CAUSE I KNOW JACK SHIT ABOUT ANYTHING!

Knock on wood I have never experienced a stricture. I haven't had a bowel obstruction. Or twisted bowels. Or bowels where the b decided to change from being a consonant to a vowel because a, e, i, o, u, and sometimes y sounded better that week (I don't know why but that cracked my ass up).

Anyway - I answer how and when I can. I'll completely agree with you that there are VERY few people I care for here. I absolutely HATE saying that. A year ago this place was amazingly supportive. And it's not because I was a fresh post-op who was in the twilight of fast weight loss and wanting to share my excitement. There was a bond a lot of us shared and it's just not here anymore because people have moved on or decided OH wasn't for them anymore. And the people who I made this strong bond with communicate with me in the background because this board is just - different. I'm honestly not surprised a lot of people have moved on.

Sure - it's the internet - who the hell cares what happens on the internet right? Well if we're supposed to be a big ol' family where we can give honest feedback and genuine support then people have to be willing to be a part of it. There are so many lurkers or infrequent posters I don't recognize anyone anymore to support them in any kind of genuine fashion. Because I'm not a cut and paste response kind of gal. When I have the time and want to share I invest my life and energy in replying (like I am doing right now). I simply can not tell people what I've heard because I know absolutely nothing about their background. That is completely unfair if you ask me. "Yeah - XYZ had this happen to them so I think that's what you've got too" isn't fair to tell someone because what if it's something entirely different? How would I know? I don't know anyone here from Adam or Eve anymore because very few people make the investment to share more then their plateau complaints, foamies, and occasional milestone success (when they've only bothered to make 2 posts on the last 8 months so yay you - who are you again?).

So since this is how I see it, I will give the cut and paste answer "go ask your surgeon because that's what you paid them for anyway" because I actually care about what you take away from my posts. I have a friend who I know from here die from WLS because I didn't ever bother to tell her to maybe reconsider the pros and cons one more time before she got on the table because my surgery was so successful. I carry that with me to this day because I can't help thinking "what if?" What if I had just said one more time "are you really sure" instead of "you're gonna do great! See you on the losing side!" because I have only known success and a complication free outcome - nothing else. That what if could have kept her alive to enjoy this past holiday with her daughter who was devastated about the death of her mother who developed a fatal leak.

So yeah - it's way bigger then just replying for the sake of replying in my case. I refuse to make that mistake ever again because everything I know is based solely on my experience which will not be everyones and my lack of knowledge could literally impact someones life in ways you and I might not even comprehend.

Jenny

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