fabulous4ever

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I am starting to get afraid of how I will look after having the surgery.  What if i lose too much weight, and not be attractive to anyone.  I dont want to get too skinny, that is one of my fears.  My other fear is what if i gain the weight back, i have seen some people who have had the surgery done and they gained it back and are struggling with eating right to lose the extra weight put on after losing.  I try to tell myself this is for you and dont care about what other people say or think about me, but its hard to not wonder about it.  I also try to just keep telling myself that i want to be healthy is the main reason for me doing this and so that i can live a longer life with my 2 little girls.

 I recently decided to tell my family about my decision with having WLS.  My mother right away said NO!! people have problems after having the surgery and its not good for you and your fine just losing the weight on your own. I explained to her that I have been struggling with my weight since I was 13 and I havent done anything but gain weight.  I have talked to my sisters and they were against it, no reason why just said dont do it.  I told them easy for you both to say dont do it neither of you have ever struggled with your weight your entire lives I have.  Some friends I talked to about it are saying dont do it b/c you will lose the weight and you may see people that look really nice after but inside they are unhappy and messed up all b/c they cant eat the things they want to eat!  I just tell them well when I am unable to eat as much as I used to eat I will be grateful for that b/c I know I am not over eating.  I will also start to look back at where I was and understand I dont want to go back to that size again if I am losing the weight after the surgery.  I am now starting to wish that I never told any of them about me taking this step in my life, b/c I keep having to explain over and over to them why this is something I am considering doing.  I need someone that tries to understand why I want to take this step not try to talk me out of it b4 even finding out about the surgery.  So I am wondering why even explain myself to them and they just dont understand.