Dating Site For Big Beautiful People??

Jun 23, 2011

So..I am kind of ashamed for admitting this but I just bought a membership to a big and beautiful dating site...I just figure maybe I would stand a better chance of finding somebody?? I don't know...just figured it was worth a try...

Anyways, have any of you ever tried this before? If so, how did it turn out? Even if it's just meeting friends, that's still great =)

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Very Eventful Weekend

Jun 11, 2011

This weekend has changed everything...I am scheduled for RNY at NYU on the 20th of this month. Well, I have decided after even more research and thought, that I will be having the VSG instead...

   I began this journey with the thinking that my choice was between the band or RNY. I was against having VSG. Of course, the band went out the window when I discovered the complication rate and rate of needing futher surgeries. I could not picture myself having a foreign device in my body for the next 50+ years since I am only 21 years old now.

   After more consideration, there are many issues that come up with VSG vs. RNY...especially since I am so young. I can not picture myself having to turn down fatty or sweet foods for the rest of my life. I love sweet fruits and I know I will have to treat myself to a fatty snack once in a long while. I can not handle having my digestive tract never normal again for the rest of my life. I know, I know, the RNY CAN be reversed. However, there are certain situations where surgeons will not take the very high risk to do so...

   With any surgery, you must go in thinking that this is how your stomach will be for the rest of your life. Going in thinking of being able to have it reversed is unhealthy and unrealistic in many cases.

   I have heard many stories of people with higher BMI's than mine who do just fantastic with having the Sleeve as a one stage operation. I found several studies which show that the Sleeve has a just as good and in some cases, even better weightloss than the RNY. The main problem is people getting impatient and wanting the drastic weight change in a shorter period of time. If I stick with the sleeve and follow on a good diet and exercise regimen, I know I can be another success story =) And hey, if I don't do well, I can have it changed to a different surgery, such as DS!! =)

  Thanks for reading and any feedback or advice you have will be greatly appreciated.

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More Personal...

Jun 08, 2011

Well...this one's a little personal but...it's my blog so...so what? As you can see from my intro; I am a 21 year old, single mother of a 2 year old terror...oops. I meant boy lol. Right now things have gotten a little more complicated than I had hoped for 2 weeks pre-surgery. My son's father, who moved from NY to NC last summer, came back in order to take care of him while I have the surgery and recover since I have nobody else to care for him. I want to make it very clear that I didn't lead him on 'nor gave him any false-hope of any kind about us reconciling. However, now he is wanting to "try again for the last time". I was very blunt with him last year that the friendship we have, will only be preserved because of our son, not for future reconciliation. I did not only end our relationship because of our problems as a couple, but mostly because he wasn't being the father to our son that I needed him to be. Now, the problem is that, I have to deal with having him here for 2 months(or more..depending on how I recover) and see him not step up as a father, once again. I'm already frustrated, and he's only been here for 5 days! I'm very big in talking to my son all of the time(even more so since he is speech delayed), and his father hardly speaks to him. I feel instead of taking some stress off of me, he is adding to it. I just want this surgery done, recovery time over, so things can go back to normal. I'm also stuck between the fact that I want my son to have his father in his life, but I want him to be a good example of a man, which he is not. I'm not going to drag his name through mud because that's just not the person I am so I am leaving it as that...Hopefully things become easier because I don't need anymore stress in my life =) If you stayed with me through this whole vent, thank you. I appreciate your time =) Have a great day!
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It has started...the pre-op liquid diet :-O

Jun 07, 2011

    So. Yesterday marked exactly 2 weeks before surgery...YIKES! I'm getting more nervous and excited as it's getting closer. I have all these different emotions at once but I figure it's only natural. Right now, I am surviving on: Crystal light, SF popsicles, sodium free bouillon cubes(I add some garlic salt and onion powder), Muscle Milk Light, and water. I am nervous I can't stick to this for 2 weeks but I know I have to be as dedicated to it before surgery, as I will be afterwards. 
    I'm having the pre-surgery gitters. Questioning, "Is this the right surgery for me?". Doing more research on others and saying "hmm..maybe I am making the wrong decision." However, I know that if the RNY wasn't right for me, atleast one of the doctors I have seen would have told me by now, so i'm trying not to stress over it anymore. I know for sure that if I got the Sleeve(Which would be my next choice), I would need to follow it up with another surgery anyway(which would be the RNY)...so why not just go for it now? instead of preparing myself for 2 different ones? I am 21 years old, in perfect health(minus the obesity) so, I need to just go for it now instead of waiting for the comorbidities to strike!
     
  I am a very open-minded, and friendly person so feel free to comment, message, ask questions, give advice, ect. =) Look forward to hearing from you!
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One of my happiest days =)

May 27, 2011

Today, May 27, 2011, I was approved for surgery! I called the surgical coordinator and right after I told her my name, she told me the words I have been dreaming of hearing, "You're approved!". I immediately couldn't speak because of how much shock I was in. Just 3 days ago, I was calling my PCP's office, annoying them to get the letter of medical necessity faxed out to my surgeon. I was fearing that if I didn't get approved by my surgery date, I would have to appeal and reschedule. I heard so many horror stories of how it sometimes takes 2 months! Shortly after hanging up with the coordinator, I called Empire Blue Cross Blue Shield to be sure the coordinator was correct. I requested to be transferred to the medical management team after a rep. told me it is still in approval. Sure enough, the medical management team assured me that I was approved yesterday afternoon =D. I can not wait to finally start living my life the way I should've been!
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