Jewels5872
The rules
Oct 30, 2006
As girls we have an enormous amount of rules that we live by. We are born pretty much knowing these rules. Guys dont understand or live by these rules AT ALL. and to be honest some girls totally disregaurd the rules..these girls are a very select few. they are the ones who have no real girlfriends and most of the time they hang with guys. I am not saying these girls are bad or wrong...they just arent following the rules. NOW it has happened and will happen that girls who do follow these rules break them on occasions....hey it happens. with all of this said lets go over the RULES! The rules apply to so many differant asspects of being a girl. but here is my list yours may very but they are probibly very close.
1. Girlfriends do not date, make out with, booty call, or anything else that would seem inapproperiate ( you nkow what that maybe) with any guy there friend dated, or had a thing with or about PERIOD! (This is always rule one for every girl BOYS LEARN IT!)
a) This may seem rough especially when you live in a small town and there is a short supply of men. I have heard girls say but what if he is my soul mate....well to that i say then if he is THE ONE then its worth losing a friend over BUT lets be honest he more than likely is not the one.
b) Boys listen to this real good...if you are a boy who is one who dated, messed with or hada girl fall for you. DO NOT ask there friend out. First off if you have no shot in hell. You have a better shot with Angelina Jolie.....and you end up making that other girl feel like crap and then you become THAT GUY! that guy we all talk about and no matter how hard you protest you are an asshole....FACT!
2. Never down your girls....Listen we are all we have. when things get bad and all we wanna do is listen to Whitney Houson and eat ben and jerry's remember who will be there.
a) We are always oncall..weather it be 4 in the afternoon or 3 in the morning. we are there to listen when your happy and when life sux! You can drop everything for a Girlfriend....NOT FOR A MAN!
3. Don't forget your friends when your with someone...Mark my words you will be alone again and you will need us lol so better keep the ties we girls are not forgiving, we are grudge bearing bitches.....YOU KNOW WE ARE!
4. Never go on a date with out and OUT.
a) you know what i mean if the date is going bad have a friend call at a certain time to get you out.
5. Always let someone know where you are and who yuor with..Times sux but we have to be careful.
6. ALWAYS call when you get home!
a) This is my favorite. i may be sleeping but i will sleep better knowing your ok..HEY IM CRAZY LIKE THAT!
7. Never look a a guy in the eyes if you dont want him to talk to you.
8. If you like a guy never, EVER leave more than 1 mesage on his voice mail. Don't email till he does first. Avoid making plans in an email. Don't email back right away, wait a bit.
a) NOW this is my weakness. i am horrible at this. This is where our girlfriends help us. when we get the urge to call or email we shoul call or email our girls for strength.
9. Don't talk about emotions untill after the 3rd daye...IF you get that far. Really try to avoid emotions all together men dont understand it just like we dont get NOT having emotions.
10. Men can not read our minds as much as we want them to get and pick up on what we want they just dont. So we have to spell out everything.
a) this suxs lets face it. It doesn't mean anything when you have to ask for romance...do i get an AMEN? If i knew men would do it i would write a book full of things to make a girl swoon but they arent built that way just like we are not built to understand why its so important to go fishing on sun morning instead of sleeping in and cuddling lol....
Most of theses rules apply to dating. here are some more generic rules:
11. Looking good is not an option. It is a requirement!
a) you dont have to be diva but you do have to be presentable. Listen the camo overlls made for hunters is not a friday night outfit. Camo is hot but lets use some kinda taste when wearing it.
12. Never Lie to get attention. Be you and you is the best person you can be! Dont become someone you think is cool....
a) This rules applys to the peer pressures of drugs, drinking and all the bad vices.
13. Make your own style....what ever it is own it! and then BRING IT! dont copy someone it may be the best form of flattery but its also lame and have enough pride in yourself to be you.
a) now this doen not mean that you and your girls cant all like a certain desinger and sport that diva look but it does mean you cant go out and buy your friends shoes, shirt and jeans and wear them a day after her or worse yet before her! lol
I am sure there are many other rules that us women can come up with and if i had all day i would think of many more and i mau ad to this later.
Feel free to add any if you feel the need as well.
I guess i am just a girl who lives really damn close to these rules and surround myself with peeps who also live by these rules. There are some things i live by on my own accord...but i know some of my friends do not agree with those so i wont bring them up lol.
We women have differant ideas about life and love than men. We just do we cant change men...dont i wish i could. i know exactly where i would start!
I wish men could love like we do. Unconditionally, sex is not a factor in who we love. dont get me wrong sex is good...ok great but not a factor in who i love. I have found men who i became attracted to because of who they were. I found them sexy later not at first. I agree that you have to be attracted to a person...trust me i get that! im a shallow bitch lol. We all have that idea of what we want...but does it ever happen that we get exactly what we want? NEVER. Sometimes the people we fall in love with are so far from what we thought we wanted. and i am horribel about stickign to my perfect idea of a man. I have made exceptions and then they blow me off and make excuse why im not right for them...so i say imma stick to my idea if i never find him lol then i will never get hurt right?? naw i have to make exceptions....and i will again.
well this was a long blog but i really needed to say alot of this.
BOYS: give us girls a break and a chance. sometimes the ones you think are not good enough (aka me lol) are so much more than you ever hoped for. i may not be 21 any more and i may not be with out a kid,(wouldnt change that ifi could) and we maybe super freaking cool....but we are also amazing so look at us in a different light! you maybe suprised!
J
1. Girlfriends do not date, make out with, booty call, or anything else that would seem inapproperiate ( you nkow what that maybe) with any guy there friend dated, or had a thing with or about PERIOD! (This is always rule one for every girl BOYS LEARN IT!)
a) This may seem rough especially when you live in a small town and there is a short supply of men. I have heard girls say but what if he is my soul mate....well to that i say then if he is THE ONE then its worth losing a friend over BUT lets be honest he more than likely is not the one.
b) Boys listen to this real good...if you are a boy who is one who dated, messed with or hada girl fall for you. DO NOT ask there friend out. First off if you have no shot in hell. You have a better shot with Angelina Jolie.....and you end up making that other girl feel like crap and then you become THAT GUY! that guy we all talk about and no matter how hard you protest you are an asshole....FACT!
2. Never down your girls....Listen we are all we have. when things get bad and all we wanna do is listen to Whitney Houson and eat ben and jerry's remember who will be there.
a) We are always oncall..weather it be 4 in the afternoon or 3 in the morning. we are there to listen when your happy and when life sux! You can drop everything for a Girlfriend....NOT FOR A MAN!
3. Don't forget your friends when your with someone...Mark my words you will be alone again and you will need us lol so better keep the ties we girls are not forgiving, we are grudge bearing bitches.....YOU KNOW WE ARE!
4. Never go on a date with out and OUT.
a) you know what i mean if the date is going bad have a friend call at a certain time to get you out.
5. Always let someone know where you are and who yuor with..Times sux but we have to be careful.
6. ALWAYS call when you get home!
a) This is my favorite. i may be sleeping but i will sleep better knowing your ok..HEY IM CRAZY LIKE THAT!
7. Never look a a guy in the eyes if you dont want him to talk to you.
8. If you like a guy never, EVER leave more than 1 mesage on his voice mail. Don't email till he does first. Avoid making plans in an email. Don't email back right away, wait a bit.
a) NOW this is my weakness. i am horrible at this. This is where our girlfriends help us. when we get the urge to call or email we shoul call or email our girls for strength.
9. Don't talk about emotions untill after the 3rd daye...IF you get that far. Really try to avoid emotions all together men dont understand it just like we dont get NOT having emotions.
10. Men can not read our minds as much as we want them to get and pick up on what we want they just dont. So we have to spell out everything.
a) this suxs lets face it. It doesn't mean anything when you have to ask for romance...do i get an AMEN? If i knew men would do it i would write a book full of things to make a girl swoon but they arent built that way just like we are not built to understand why its so important to go fishing on sun morning instead of sleeping in and cuddling lol....
Most of theses rules apply to dating. here are some more generic rules:
11. Looking good is not an option. It is a requirement!
a) you dont have to be diva but you do have to be presentable. Listen the camo overlls made for hunters is not a friday night outfit. Camo is hot but lets use some kinda taste when wearing it.
12. Never Lie to get attention. Be you and you is the best person you can be! Dont become someone you think is cool....
a) This rules applys to the peer pressures of drugs, drinking and all the bad vices.
13. Make your own style....what ever it is own it! and then BRING IT! dont copy someone it may be the best form of flattery but its also lame and have enough pride in yourself to be you.
a) now this doen not mean that you and your girls cant all like a certain desinger and sport that diva look but it does mean you cant go out and buy your friends shoes, shirt and jeans and wear them a day after her or worse yet before her! lol
I am sure there are many other rules that us women can come up with and if i had all day i would think of many more and i mau ad to this later.
Feel free to add any if you feel the need as well.
I guess i am just a girl who lives really damn close to these rules and surround myself with peeps who also live by these rules. There are some things i live by on my own accord...but i know some of my friends do not agree with those so i wont bring them up lol.
We women have differant ideas about life and love than men. We just do we cant change men...dont i wish i could. i know exactly where i would start!
I wish men could love like we do. Unconditionally, sex is not a factor in who we love. dont get me wrong sex is good...ok great but not a factor in who i love. I have found men who i became attracted to because of who they were. I found them sexy later not at first. I agree that you have to be attracted to a person...trust me i get that! im a shallow bitch lol. We all have that idea of what we want...but does it ever happen that we get exactly what we want? NEVER. Sometimes the people we fall in love with are so far from what we thought we wanted. and i am horribel about stickign to my perfect idea of a man. I have made exceptions and then they blow me off and make excuse why im not right for them...so i say imma stick to my idea if i never find him lol then i will never get hurt right?? naw i have to make exceptions....and i will again.
well this was a long blog but i really needed to say alot of this.
BOYS: give us girls a break and a chance. sometimes the ones you think are not good enough (aka me lol) are so much more than you ever hoped for. i may not be 21 any more and i may not be with out a kid,(wouldnt change that ifi could) and we maybe super freaking cool....but we are also amazing so look at us in a different light! you maybe suprised!
J
wwwwwWOW!!
Oct 30, 2006
Ok so let me just tell you i had a WWWWOW moment!
im 34 right! 34!!! and im at a club(see pics) with my 2 best friends in my lil city Julie (bride girl) and Dani (school girl) and me(candy stripper) and this HOT....SMOKIN HOT!! 21 yea i said 21 year old BOY (HOTTTIE BOY) starts hittign on me.....OMG! he asked for my number lol and he has called me a few times already and that was sat..NOW I am not stupid...I know what he wants lmao....BUT HE WOULD OF NEVER WANTED IT 97 POUNDS AGO! lol hahahaha...
Now THATS a freaking WOW moment!....
is it wrong i wanna wow his moment??? hahahahahaha
J
im 34 right! 34!!! and im at a club(see pics) with my 2 best friends in my lil city Julie (bride girl) and Dani (school girl) and me(candy stripper) and this HOT....SMOKIN HOT!! 21 yea i said 21 year old BOY (HOTTTIE BOY) starts hittign on me.....OMG! he asked for my number lol and he has called me a few times already and that was sat..NOW I am not stupid...I know what he wants lmao....BUT HE WOULD OF NEVER WANTED IT 97 POUNDS AGO! lol hahahaha...
Now THATS a freaking WOW moment!....
is it wrong i wanna wow his moment??? hahahahahaha
J
flashback
Oct 25, 2006
I went to Kick Boxing class and there was a new girl there...she looked like i DID! yea she was a big gurl. i could not help but watch her. she was trying so hard...i saw her make jokes to cover up for the fact that she was so big she could not do what the rest of us could....i suddenly found myself back to when i started...feeling the same feeling i did. i began to cry. i wanted to touch her arm and say i know how you feel. but she didnt know me i was just another thin person trying to "help" her and she probibly thought i had no idea what it was like to be big. BUT i did. i could not keep my eyes off her. she was me......9 months ago. i dont wanna go back. im scared to death of going back. I dont want to be that person i dont want to struggle to clim stairs or tie my shoes or sit indian style on the floor. That day when i left the class my heart hurt for her.....what she didnt know exsisted...this life i lead now as a non-obese woman. i still carry that "fat girl" inside me and she still feels the emotional pain of being fat even though everyone sees her as who i am now. onedaythat emotional pain will im and i can lead this life i am carving out for myself. but that day...that moment...i felt fat again....and i dont ever want to again.
ON A ROLL!
Oct 24, 2006
So today i went in and weighed in.....drum roll please!!!!!! 174! i lost another 2 pounds thats 4 fr the month and 97 total and 3 pounds from the century club and 29 from goal!! can you belive it?? im so excited:-)
AND I started my period so maybe when thats over i will lose more:-)
BUT along with the period comes my hell. my periods have been really bad i get sick and week and ugh i never had this issue but now it seems i do. I do to the ob'gyn next week so i will talk to him about that see if there is anything i can do about it.
Other than that all is well and as usual i am at work bored outta my mind! lunch in 1 hour!
Kisses
J
AND I started my period so maybe when thats over i will lose more:-)
BUT along with the period comes my hell. my periods have been really bad i get sick and week and ugh i never had this issue but now it seems i do. I do to the ob'gyn next week so i will talk to him about that see if there is anything i can do about it.
Other than that all is well and as usual i am at work bored outta my mind! lunch in 1 hour!
Kisses
J
look at me two days in a row lol
Oct 20, 2006
I can not post blogs on myspace at work so guess what!!!! imma do it here lol.
My job is so boring.....i find it hard to focus on what to do. Normally i would eat lol so now i surf whatever i can on the web due to the fact some stuff is blocked. i come on here a bit to see postings on the board and to put my 2 cents worth in lol. but eh im bored.
I will say i go out more and try to keep busy or else i would be bored at home and eat to much. lol i find when i am out with friends to eat they all ask what it is i am eating so they can pick at what i dont eat lol which is alot lmao.
im so ready for plastics llol i think i am only gonna do my breast and my tummy tuck but i have to wait till next summer. so...i wait! ugh.
Well i am tring to think of things to say casue im bored and need to keep busy but there is nothing to say hahaha so SEE YA!
J
My job is so boring.....i find it hard to focus on what to do. Normally i would eat lol so now i surf whatever i can on the web due to the fact some stuff is blocked. i come on here a bit to see postings on the board and to put my 2 cents worth in lol. but eh im bored.
I will say i go out more and try to keep busy or else i would be bored at home and eat to much. lol i find when i am out with friends to eat they all ask what it is i am eating so they can pick at what i dont eat lol which is alot lmao.
im so ready for plastics llol i think i am only gonna do my breast and my tummy tuck but i have to wait till next summer. so...i wait! ugh.
Well i am tring to think of things to say casue im bored and need to keep busy but there is nothing to say hahaha so SEE YA!
J
SORRY
Oct 18, 2006
Sorry its been so long i have not posted since APRIL! im a dork...But lets recap.
Ok its October 19, 2006 I have lost 95 pounds! I still work out but not liek i did only abotu 3 times a wek this week i slacked but i try at least three times. I was a size 22-24 now i am an 8-10. My chest was a 44ddd now i am a 38c lol my boobs are like rocks in socks lol i cant wait to get them fixed!!!!. I AM STILL SINGLE AND I WILL GET INTO THAT LATER! real estate sucks so i had to get a job which i hate lol and i also might get another one in nov just waitting to see. Everyone in the OH group seems to be doing great!
Im ok the emotional thing is wild. I reallly ( i know i know) thought that this surgery would change my whole life and make everythign better. well it doesnt. and learning to cope with issues is differant now. where i used to eat my sadness away i cant any more. so i shop but now i am broke lol so looking for a new release lol. I have found that i still eat when i am sad but then i feel guiolty and purge NOT SO GOOD. but i am working on that. I think i need to work on the sadness first.
Its funny the friends i have who have gone through this all say they go through the emotional one way or another. one of my frioends really self distructed....i THANK GOD am not doing that. I dont drink dont do drugs and i take care of my kid and mmy life is stable...but i can understand how it can happen. all of a sudden your this differant person. you getting attention from people who used to just not see you and its weird. a whole lot to absorb!.
Dateing sucks.... fat or think its really all the same lol men just want to gfet in your pants. lol like i said in my myspace blog the ones i want a relationship with dont want a relationship and the ones i dont want one with want one lol its CRAP!
I still dont eat bread or white rice....(except on sushi which i have found i like now weird) cant drink OJ at all makes me sick. NO sweets liek cake oe cookie althoguh i do on occasion have animal crackers lol. i have eatten a twizler too but on the whole im pretty good about that stuff. I do however eat friend foods prolly not good lol.
But folks thats about it. i will really try to keep this updated i am so sorry for not doing a good job at it:) tonight i will try to upload some new pics:-)
Kisses
J
271/176/145
Ok its October 19, 2006 I have lost 95 pounds! I still work out but not liek i did only abotu 3 times a wek this week i slacked but i try at least three times. I was a size 22-24 now i am an 8-10. My chest was a 44ddd now i am a 38c lol my boobs are like rocks in socks lol i cant wait to get them fixed!!!!. I AM STILL SINGLE AND I WILL GET INTO THAT LATER! real estate sucks so i had to get a job which i hate lol and i also might get another one in nov just waitting to see. Everyone in the OH group seems to be doing great!
Im ok the emotional thing is wild. I reallly ( i know i know) thought that this surgery would change my whole life and make everythign better. well it doesnt. and learning to cope with issues is differant now. where i used to eat my sadness away i cant any more. so i shop but now i am broke lol so looking for a new release lol. I have found that i still eat when i am sad but then i feel guiolty and purge NOT SO GOOD. but i am working on that. I think i need to work on the sadness first.
Its funny the friends i have who have gone through this all say they go through the emotional one way or another. one of my frioends really self distructed....i THANK GOD am not doing that. I dont drink dont do drugs and i take care of my kid and mmy life is stable...but i can understand how it can happen. all of a sudden your this differant person. you getting attention from people who used to just not see you and its weird. a whole lot to absorb!.
Dateing sucks.... fat or think its really all the same lol men just want to gfet in your pants. lol like i said in my myspace blog the ones i want a relationship with dont want a relationship and the ones i dont want one with want one lol its CRAP!
I still dont eat bread or white rice....(except on sushi which i have found i like now weird) cant drink OJ at all makes me sick. NO sweets liek cake oe cookie althoguh i do on occasion have animal crackers lol. i have eatten a twizler too but on the whole im pretty good about that stuff. I do however eat friend foods prolly not good lol.
But folks thats about it. i will really try to keep this updated i am so sorry for not doing a good job at it:) tonight i will try to upload some new pics:-)
Kisses
J
271/176/145
About Me
orange city, FL
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Jan 09, 2006
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