Kathy P.
Where are all the Father's going?
May 25, 2009
As I had posted prevously, my dad passed away on Dec. 29th of last year. Now, my FIL has passed as well. It started Thursday (May 14th) with a late night call from paramedics. My FIL, Bill, was refusing to go to the hospital. His pulse ox was down to 78. Paramedics gave him 90 minutes without intervention. My DH and I hit the road and went to Bill's apartment. He resides in an Assisted Living apartment, here in town. I tried to get him to go to the hospital, telling him that if he didn't, he was going to die right where he was...in his chair. Finally, Bill told me that he didn't want to go to the hospital, because the last time he did (a week previously for a broken collar bone), his Safe had been broken into! Being a retired cop, that is probably the one thing that he could absolutely NOT tolerate. I could not believe it! On so many levels, I was so angry and upset! Bill would rather sit and die in his apartment for fear of being robbed!! And on top of that, the Manager hadn't let us know this had occurred! She (Ms. Manager) did tell us that it was obviously staff, as it is a secured building, and all staff have a master key. No way to get in or out unless you are staff. Anyway, after a couple of hours, we got him talked into going to hospital. We were in and out of his room in ICU all weekend. His COPD and CHF were taking it's toll. On top of that, he had pneumonia, which wasn't responding to the massive amounts of antibiotics. My DH and I met with Hospice workers, and my dear friend who works at the hospital was there for support as well. My poor DH had to make the most difficult decision that he has ever had to make. With that said, on Monday (May 18th), we stood by his father, Bill, in the ICU, when he gently passed away. I'm so thankful that my DH was there with his dad when he left this life. I, however, am still so very angry at the assisted living complex. I'm angry that the manager didn't contact us about FIL's robbery. I'm angry that he wasted precious life-saving time in his apartment for fear of leaving it. I'm angry that the manager KNEW RIGHT WHERE MY FIL KEPT THE KEY AND COMBO TO HIS SAFE! Anyway, I guess I just needed to post and vent....my therapy.Hugs to all of you-
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Port Orchard, WA
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02/09/2009
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Dec 23, 2008
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