Do your homework

Nov 08, 2009

Some of you already have heard me say that my mother was dead against any weight loss surgery.  She knew someone who had a daughter who had gastric bypass and has now gained 50% of the weight back she had lost.  This person had also been through extensive plastic surgery.  Long story short, I kept my surgery a secret from her until I was absolutely sure that I was going to have it done and have applied for insurance approval.  She is a wonderful supportive mother and just worries about me and doesnt want anything bad to happen to me. 

My point of this post is to recommend to all pre ops to DO YOUR HOMEWORK.  My  mother is also very opinionated and will def say whats on her mind.  I wanted to have all the answers for her when she began to criticise my desire for the Duodenal switch weifght loss surgery. About a month ago, I had my little bariatric surgery brochure, which showed all the possible weight loss surgeries and how altered your GI tract.  I got up my nerve and told her that I was going to have surgery in January.  I explained all the different types of WL surgery and then told her all about the DS.  I explained the good, the bad and the ulgly.  She did not say ANYTHING, but "OH!!". 

For a month or so, nothing more was ever said about the surgery.  She stays at the jersey shore right now so I did not see her much the past month but had talked to her.  I did not bring it up to her anymore either.

So, yesterday, I had spent the day with her.  In the morning while we were getting dressed for th day she says to me," Oh my Donna, you have very big boobs!"  I responded with " I have big everything and I am going to take care of that in January".
 This opened up the forum for us to talk openly about the surgery.  We talked about the surgery and expectations through out the day.  I was prepared, I was able to answer 99% of her questions  and I felt totally confident in my decision to have this surgery and its expectations it will have from me.  I respect this surgery  and was able to get that accross to my mother.
She told me that she could not come to the hospitql to see me after the surgery because she cannot stand to see my in that condition.  She did say she would take very good care of me once I got home. I know she will.
We went to atlantic city for the day and she was now telling all her friends, " Donna is going to have Weight loss surgery. It is something different then the bypass"  It made me very proud to be her daughter and to be able to have the Duadeneal switch. 

Just hoping and waiting now for my insurance approval and a date.

It is so important to know all about your surgery and its pros and cons.  Pick the best surgery for you!  Thank you all for all the knowledge you have given me about the DS and I was able to be informed and properly educate my mother on my surgery.  I feel confident that this is the right surgery for me and it will give me life long happiness.

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