Grrr@emotional setbacks!!!

Jan 05, 2010

Well, I am just a few days  over 5 months out and I have lost 83 pounds.  I Was feeling really great and thinking that I was doing very well, untill today that is.    My mom said something to me that was like a punch in the stomach!!!   I was telling her about running into someone that hasn't seen me since a few weeks before the surgery.  This girl was amazed at how much weight I had lost and was telling me how great I look and how much healthier I seemed to be.    I felt so great!!! ... then my mom says to me..."I'm sorry Donna, but I just dont see it".   Then starts quoting stuff from the show "the biggest looser" about exercise and stuff.        I almost fell over.    I cant believe how much that one little line of words has effected me!! I have been depressed all day!!!!    Especially because my mom has always been the one to pat me on the back and give posotive affirmations.     It hurt me so badly!!!  
   This isn't the first time though,  Recently she has been criticizing me for every thing I eat.    Example.....we went out to dinner about as month ago *(my first trip to a resteraunt since surgery) my cousin was visiting from out of town and wanted bar-b-q.  His treat...so we all went .   I orderd a sliced pork sandwich.  No sauce. I ate two thin slices of the pork, two baby sized bites of baked beans and a bite of my daughters onion ring.   I washed it down with about 3 sips of diet coke.      After leaving, my mom commentd..."You ate alot!!!! more than you really should have......you better be carefull or you'll stretch your stomach and gain all the weight back"!!!    I was shocked!! My daughter was as well...she wanted to say something to her grandmother about it, but I asked her not to.  I was in tears the entire drive home.    I feel like I have done well,   I seem to be keeping up with others that had the same surgery around the same time as me.    It's like my mom thinks I should still be eating the way I did two weeks out........or that I am gonna be 120 pounds smaller in 6 months time.   I really dont know how to approach her with this subject...but I know I have to.     I have felt so bad all day because of this.......  Im just not sure how to handle what I am feeling..or how to let her know how detrimental what she is doing and saying is to my weight loss.    Any one else have this happen? and if so, how did you deal with it?

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