I Have a Question for You

Apr 23, 2010

What would you do if you KNEW you couldn’t fail?

I recently read an article about this written by Jane Faulkner, Life Coach.

She speaks of the thoughts that stop us from trying… from experiencing… because of our thoughts of the possibility of failure.  She points out that we each have that ‘inner critic’, but also adds that we each have our own ‘inner advocate’.    She goes on to point out that some use the fear of failure to give them the fuel they need to stay at the edge and not go beyond.  The fear is what keeps them in their safe zone, so to speak.

She says, “The Critic will do anything to avoid failure in the outside world.  It relentlessly drives us to follow our ‘inner’ rules, whether those rules flow from perfectionism, the need to succeed, or other similar belief systems (most likely inherited from our parents).  The Advocate is motivated by a desire to serve the client in the best way possible.  It is an expansive energy, not a contracted energy like the Critic’s.” 

I like even just thinking about having an ‘Inner ADVOCATE’  ….. that is so cool!  Think about it.  My very own inner, positive, helper!

I think we have all wondered if WLS will get us to our goal of better health, higher self- esteem, better  image, skinny jeans!, etc.  I’ve seen dozens of posts (including my own) fearing failing at another attempt at weight loss.  Well, for now… let’s put the weight loss piece of us aside.  Take the challenge to come up with a few answers to the question.

I had to really think about this, to ALLOW myself to be reckless, to be adventuresome, and let my mind and my passions warm to the thought of even going there.  The inner critic vs. the inner advocate.

Here are a couple I came up with: 

1.     Travel Internationally until I found THE spot that I wanted to purchase a house and live the rest of my life.  (The freedom of living somewhere because I want to, not restricted to the economic impact, geographic ties to family, etc.)

2.       Create art… paint, sculpt, etc.  (I’ve tried different mediums throughout my life. I get energized and excited thinking about it and during the process, but I am always disappointed with the end result).

So, now it’s your turn!  Besides weight loss.... Take a few minutes to think about the question and post a couple of things you would do if you KNEW you couldn’t fail!!!  Heck, have fun with it…. Use it as mind candy…anyone ever want to be an erotic dancer?  An owner of a Fortune 500 Company? Etc…..  Ready, set, post! 

NOTE:   The above only includes a few excerpts from the original article (I will post more of it in my next blog).  The full article goes onto to talk about how to deal with that fear and how to move beyond the fear.  I would be happy to share it if anyone is interested, just email me here at OH.

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