Interacting With Family

Mar 24, 2013

This last week home from the hospital I've been so angry. My husband took a week off of work so that he could be home and support me but I feel like he just wanted the time away from work for himself. I'd be supportive of that if it weren't for the fact that I don't feel very supported myself. The first few days I was not only preparing my own meals, but cooking for him as well. He didn't do any cleaning in the house other than laundry; which was absolutely necessary doing to the heavy weight of carrying it up and down stairs. So basically, he's been home for nothing but playing video games and surfing the net. 

I go back to work tomorrow and I'm really excited if only so I can get out of this house. I didn't expect to be waited on hand and foot but I thought I'd get a little more help than I have at home. He went to sign back in from leave today only to find out that he signed up for leave until Wednesday. Instead of signing in early to save his leave days, he's going to stay home. Am I wrong for feeling angry? The only reason he took leave was to take care of me and he hasn't done that. Now I'm going back to work and he's going to continue sitting at home making an even bigger mess of things. And I'm sure I'll be expected to cook him dinner when I come home from work as well. It's been building up for awhile now but this surgery has only highlighted how I feel like I have two jobs and no safe space to go to relax.

Eating used to be my comfort from this, it would make me happy. Now I'm not sure what to do since talking about it only makes him defensive. I can't wait to be healed enough to really hit it in the gym. I need some stress relief!

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