mandiemac
Is It Really Over? Part 2
Dec 30, 2009
So I know it has been awhile since I wrote on my blog but I have been very busy with the Christmas holiday and studying for finals.Anyway, after my sister came over, I told my hubby I had wanted a divorce so he went to bed all cranky and grumbly. I was really serious about it. My sister had slept over so we could talk and she could protect me just in case. Well, the next day I was out and about trying to figure out what to do next. My hubby was determined to stay at the house and I didn't want to be anywhere near him. I had nowhere to go but to the woman's homeless shelter. I had no where else to go and I felt so alone. but they said they would make room for me and my children. I didn't think it was fair that I had to take the kids out of their home and beds. After enough complaining, my hubby gave in to move out but he didn't know where to. After making a few calls, one of his buddies from work gave him a pastor's number. When that pastor was reached he had suggested the men's homeless shelter in town. So after I got my daughter from school, we went right to my dad's house where we waited til my hubby was gone. We ordered pizza and waited til after 8pm when he saud he would be gone by. So we went home after we saw the light show at the park.
Needless to say I was a mess, I have never cried that hard in my life. Here was a guy I wanted to spend the rest of my life with and it was over. I was alone that weekend. I never had anyone to call or stop in to see if I needed anything or just a shoulder to cry on. It is a ugly, big world when your family does that to you.
Anyway, I have agreed that my hubby could come back home to live the day before Christmas eve. He was at the shelter almost 2 weeks and hated it but I say Oh well. He was only able to come back after he had met my requests. I wanted something in writing about what things he wanted me to change, what will make him happy, how he feels for me, and if he wanted more kids. He also had to schedule counseling and that is scheduled for Feb 3rd. He better change and go to counseling or I can't be with him. I have given him so many chances to be with me, the one who he is suppose to love and support forever and ever. Anyway, I just got done writing a list of things I want him to change. There are 11 changes on here versus the 4 I think he had on my list. He wants me to pretty much help with chores and get a job. I start my job in a couple of weeks but I think at that time he still wouldn't be happy.
I had found out that the housing and apartments that are income based waiting lists around a year out so if things don't get better at least I will have money in Feb and March when I am working, get my financial aid refund, and my tax refund back. That would be the perfect time to get out and move on. I found out that divorce is not cheap either and it is such a lengthy process. All it takes is a court minister, 2 I do's, a couple signatures, and the marriage certificate fee and you are married. When you get a divorce it seems like you need the whole city. If I went through pro se it will cost around $575 and you have to do the work yourself. Well, this is the end of what came out to be something horrible, I am hoping it will work and I can honestly say I did whatever it took to save my marriage. I love that man but he better show me that he loves me too.
I will try to post again tomorrow. I would like to post a couple of wow moments and how incredible this journey is.
