Too Many........

Aug 03, 2012

Hi OH Family. Today I want to talk about something close to my heart. Being a plus sized woman I tend to have plus sized friends. Well lately I have been losing too many friends. For example last December I had a friend I talked to daily on line. She is my Sorority sister in a sorority that celebrates plus size beauty while promoting various health issues in the community. My friend was a newlywed, married for 6 months and enjoying life. I talked to her on Friday about something, not realizing that would be our last conversation. For some reason I didn't check my text messages on Sunday, so when I logged on Monday I saw all of these RIP messages. I was about to call her sister when I saw the text the sister sent. My friend in her late 30's had a heart attack at home and died Saturday. Of course that hit me like a ton of bricks ..........why did this happen to such a sweet person? I vowed I would continue preparing for my bypass surgery to improve my health. I can't imagine hurting my family and friends by leaving too soon. Trust me I know how it feels, both of my parents died young. In fact when I turned 40 I cried because my father died at 39, and I wondered if I would live to see 40.
Fast forward to today. I have lost another plus sized friend suddenly. She was in her early 30's and having some health issues because of her weight. For the past few months she has been losing weight to help improve her health so she could be around to see her god child grow up and she could do more things. Plus she was tired of dealing with doctors (I know how she felt). All doctors aren't bariatric friendly and over the years I have had my share of them. They don't examine you to find out your problem because they know it has something to do with your weight. Well I just got news that she died this morning. She was in the hospital for a re-occurring infection that antibiotics weren't curring. She died this morning......too many of my plus sized friends are leaving too soon and my heart is heavy. The message I'm getting is that extra weight will kill you. I believe I did this surgery in time to prevent an early death. I just have to stay motivated. I didn't have this surgery to be skinny or to wear a size 10, I did this to be healthy. I want to be healthy for myself and then my family and friends. I want to know what it's like to be a mother, enjoy traveling again, and to dance like no one is watching!

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Waldorf, MD
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05/21/2012
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