RNYdeb
This is my second time around and things need to change. I had unexpected events prevent me from following through with the WLS process about 3 years ago, but I also didn't seek support when I should have. From you all or from my husband and family. I don't want to make that mistake again because, let's face it...weight-loss surgery isn't going to stop life from throwing curve-balls at me.
Last time around, I didn't really involve my husband. I borrowed a copy of Dr. Aranow's informational session for him to view on his own, thinking that would be sufficient. Well, I realize now that I was actually sort of hiding things from him then to prevent him from having anything potentially negative to say about the surgery or my ability to follow through afterword. This time, I took him to the informational session, the group dietary session, and a support group. My husband told me yesterday that he's MUCH better prepared to offer the right kind of support this time around because he understands so much more about it. He's also going with me on Jan 9th for my personal visit with Dr. Aranow and when I meet with the dietition (same day). I now realize that if Paul (hubby) talks about the process and says "What will you do if...?" or "How will you deal with...?", I usually have a plan already. I also know he's not just trying to throw up road-blocks! If I don't have a plan in place, at least I have a chance to think about how to address whatever potential problem he may point out now, rather than have to face it unprepared after surgery. In the long run, it benefits ME, and I want to thank him for it.
I also know I need support from all of you because, after all, my husband isn't actually going to be able to share his surgery experience with me since he's not having it. But if I don't ask you all for support, how will you know I need it? I'm quick to offer up support to others, but not seek it for myself. Well, here it is...I'm not going to hide in the background keeping secrets about myself because I'm afraid of being judged. I need to trust you guys. This time around, I need your support. Soooo...here's the dirt on RNYdeb...
I am 45 yrs old with 4 adult children and 2 grandchildren (2 & 4). I'm 5' 3" short and weigh 266lbs (BMI 46). I've had surgery on both knees and need knee replacements but the doctor wants me to try to wait at least 5 yrs, till I'm 50. I have type II diabetes and take 3 oral medications for it, but I'm still having trouble getting my blood sugars under control. My HBa1c was 7.9 in June but is likely over 8 by now, even with the recent addition of Jenuvia. I'm just waiting for my most recent test results to confirm it. My cholesterol is great, but only because I take Lipitor. I also have mild fatty liver disease. Now, I've been told my blood pressure is borderline high.
Let's face it...I NEED weightloss surgery to improve my health and quality of life. Someday I want to ride a horse (too heavy now), cross my legs, wear a pair of shoes with heels higher than 1 inch, walk a mile in 20 minutes, dance fast for 2 songs (in a row), see my grandchildren get married, fit SECURELY on amusement park rides, shop in the "ladies" department (not "womans"), and wear a pair of jeans with a freaking ZIPPER! Losing weight now will also be helpful when it comes time to have the knee replacements done.
Thanks for hearing me out. If you have any advice you can offer, or personal stories you think sharing might help me with the weightloss surgery process, please do so.
I'll be at various support meetings at Middlesex Hospital. Perhaps some of you will be there, too. I actually put a photo on my profile this time around so you'll be able to identify me if you choose to do so.
Everyone please take care and have a safe & healthy holiday season,
Deb
