Taking the Easy Way Out...and other Nonsense

Feb 13, 2013

Recently I had someone I truly love and care about make an off hand comment about someone she doesn't like. This person had Gastric Bypass surgery and has lost her weight and in fact has started teaching exercise classes. Now I don't care for this person, she is very vindictive, mean and truly a hurtful individual. But what my loved one said was this, "How can she be an exercise instructor, it isn't like she did it herself, she took the easy way out and had surgery." In that moment all I could think of was how ignorant she was about the process of bariatric surgery. Especially given my history with it, and how much I suffered, how much time from work I lost, how much I longed to be healthy. How much I still long to feel 100% again. 

So a person who gets a bariatric surgery is obviously viewed by some as taking the easy way out. That is an interesting view because from my standpoint I would have to say that going through a Roux En Y surgery, recovery, diet changes, vitamin regimens, exercising, getting enough of each vitamin and minerals is probably the hardest thing I've ever done in my life. 

I still fight myself from letting my loved one know just how offended I was by her trite statement. I often wonder if she really thinks that or if she was just angry at this mean person and blurted it out, not really thinking how it sounded. 

I'm not sure where I'm going with this, but just felt the need to say, this was not EASY. This requires commitment, and dedication to proper nutrition, hydration and exercise. This requires watching the clock to make sure you eat at certain times, to make sure you take your vitamins, get enough protein, do enough exercise, drink enough liquids to stay out of the infusion room. It is an effort for me somedays to remind myself to take care of myself, because some days I just don't feel like running through the list of shit I have to do everyday in order to be healthy. 

That being said....have any of you faced this type of comment and what was your reply? 

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