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No matter how hard I work on processing pain, I have a difficult time with this part of learning to heal.  I forced myself to look for pictures that represent something painful to me.... pictures that I pass over quickly every time I come across them. I found two that certainly qualify.

When we avoid pain we are absolutely handing over the keys to the trigger monster who will take us on a new adventure seeking food.... or whatever our coping mechanism is.  This kind of pain never goes away on its own and WILL ALWAYS show up somewhere else because it does not magically float away.

My heart tells me if I feel this I will die! My head tells me this is not true...that I won't die.... but I still don't want to feel it so why can't I think about something else?  In the past I ate.  As soon as the "food high" wore off I ate again.  The problem is that pain doesn't go away until you deal with it and worse....it can manifest in other ways like physical pain.

Skinny Minnie died several months ago and we lost Boo Radley in November. This post isn't about my wanting sympathy since I tend to be extremely private about this kind of thing.  It's embarrassing because some people don't understand my animals are my children.  I haven't really dealt with the pain properly so I'm forcing myself to face it and feel these feelings.

This quote by Gary Zukav perfectly illustrates my point.

"The compulsive activities in your life are those activities that are your way of avoiding the experience of painful emotions. That is why you must experience the painful emotions because if you don’t experience your pain you remain locked in your compulsive behaviors which are creating difficult and painful consequences in your life.  Otherwise you won’t fulfill your greatest potential and that’s important because that’s where your deep meaning and sense of purpose resides."

Sooooo....that means that if we don't process our emotional pain we are doomed to continue our compulsive behaviors (like reaching for food).  Is it easier to eat and avoid the pain?  You bet it is!  That's why we do it.

I would like to invite you to try something different next time you want to eat away the pain.  Sit in it....cry and scream if you have to.  Stare at a photograph every day until the pain starts to subside.  Talk about your pain to someone who cares.  It won't happen overnight but know you are moving closer to healing by facing your pain and working through it.

And better yet?  Try to live your life in such a way that you avoid unnecessary pain....you know the kind....the kind where you get twisted off over something that's said online or by a co-worker.  Deep down you know it's NOT about you and all about them.  There is a reason for the saying "misery loves company".  If you expose yourself to drama or try to control situations you cannot change, you are handing a formal invitation to Mr. Trigger.

In the meantime I've got some pain I need to sit in.  Boo Radley and Skinnie Minnie will be forever missed and eventually I will  be able to look at their pictures without experiencing as much grief.  Instead I will do my best to remember all the joy and love they gave both of us.  I should mostly remember how we rescued them and gave them a life free of hunger, pain, never being too hot or too cold, and Boo never even knew one day of being afraid.

Kalli Cat and new born Boo Radley

 

Daddy Teaching Sports

 

 

 

Regain glasses suck.

The moment regain becomes a problem we put on those regain glasses and NOTHING looks good.

A few years ago I distinctly remember reading a post from a woman that went something like this.

I hate my hair.  I don't like my face and don't know how to use makeup. I hate what I'm eating every day and I'm sick of it.  Oh and I gained 5 pounds.

One of my most often repeated quotes...."we are rarely upset for the reason we think".  Of course I assume you can guess what she was really upset about.  I wrote her and told her to get a cute haircut, go to a department store and get someone to show her how to do makeup (free) or check out thousands of makeup videos on You Tube.  I also told her she could change what she eats every day.  Of course none of that made her feel better because she didn't FEEL like doing any of that because she was wearing her regain glasses loud and proud.

It seems that for most people everything looks pretty awful through those regain glasses.  I want to help you take them off.   You say "Yeah right…like I haven’t tried… and mostly..... I don't FEEL like it.  I don't feel like doing anything."  I have often pointed out that when you were at this weight on the way down you were ecstatic!  Do you see how your perspective totally messes with your head?  Why do we obsess about the lowest weight we ever reached instead of constantly realizing what our highest weight was and being grateful we aren't there?  And if you choose to obsess about your lowest weight, doesn't it make sense to move towards doing something about it instead of continuing to walk down regain road?

Unfortunately we have this big adjustment to make after weight loss surgery because the first year we are wearing the "honeymoon glasses" and EVERYTHING looks GREAT!  Remember how wonderful everything was when you lost your first 30-40 pounds?  Yet you were heavier than you are now.  You could hardly mess up at all the first year.  It was all good!

One day you wake up and you can't find your honeymoon glasses.  You start to take for granted the little things like being able to tie your shoes, paint your toe nails, fit in an airplane seat..... and the next thing you know it isn't enough anymore. Some of us hang in there for a while or even a long while and eventually something shifts and you start to think about how much you miss those honeymoon glasses.... you start looking for that feeling in other things like our old friend Mr. Food.  He’s tappin' you on the shoulder every day..."Pssst....remember me? Remember how much fun we had?  Oh come on... a little sum-um sum-um won't hurt you".  All the while your old friend has some regain glasses stuck in his back pocket just waiting to slide them on your face.

One of the most extreme cases of the perspective meter being out of whack was a woman I met who had lost 485 pounds.  Not a typo!  She lost 485 pounds but she had gained 40 back.  She was all out of sorts and literally more miserable than when she weighed her heaviest.

I asked her to imagine that 485 pounds sitting on the floor.  Right next to it 40 lbs. I guess we could say it looks something like this.  (For those with perfectly analytical brains please forgive me…I guesstimated it)

I told her not to give that 40 pounds the time of day and dust it off. We give that regain so much power and of course we can pile plenty of shame on top of that for good measure.  Shame is toxic, shame keeps us down.  Shame keeps those damn regain glasses cemented to our face.

Here's the thing....if you don't take off the glasses and begin to turn things around....chances are that you'll look up in another year with more regain.  Get off the insanity train today. Of course you remember... “Insanity=doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome”

Everyone is different but here are a few suggestions.  You can’t build Rome in a day but you can always do the next best thing. (Thank you Post-Op and a Doc for “the next best thing”)

Look at your before picture in the morning and FEEL what you felt like.  Sit it that for a while. I do that every morning without fail. Remember the things you wanted so badly.  BE GRATEFUL you aren't there. If I could put you back in that body for a week you would be SO grateful to be you right now.

Quit thinking about the perceived mountain you have to move and pick up the shovel and start with one scoop at a time.  Instead of Nike's "just do it", change it to "just start".  (Thank you Chuck for that one) It’s too overwhelming to plan into the next century.  I can hear the questions now….how long will this take?  It DOES NOT matter.  Just move toward your goal instead of away from it..... just for today.  Today is all that counts.

Get the crap food out of your house.  I know many people who find creative ways to do this with a family that feels they have to have the crap food.  Put it in a place it can locked up but you'd do your family a favor by getting it out of their reach as well.  Sugar and junk food is as addictive as any drug and they will guarantee that you will still be wearing those regain glasses.  See my “M&M” story in this post.

Find a way to move your body that you can enjoy.  I LOVE to dance.  I hate to run….I wanted to love it but I don’t.  I wanted that runner's high and I just could not get it.  I love yoga and if you think you can’t do it, watch this! I describe yoga as slow dancing with yourself.   Abby Lentz from Heartfelt Yoga is a dear friend. Look her up, she has DVD’s.

http://video.pbs.org/video/2365170173/

You won’t do anything for very long if you perceive it as suffering.  When you eat healthier food envision how you are nourishing your body.  Remember it will make you feel better and look better instead of putting on more weight which equates to depression, physical pain, more misery and a shorter life span.  Again the most important part of this is to stop the bleeding that has begun with regain.  Nothing in life is easy so here comes your choices…...choose your hard.

 

 

Original post found here:  Take off those regain glasses and turn it around - Bariatric Girl Blog

Ever since this story aired on the evening news I haven't been able to get it out of my mind.  For years the National Weight Control Registry has been keeping records and documentation of those who have lost weight and kept it off for years.  The term "Super Dieters" tends to turn me off a bit because we all know diets don't work and no one should be called "Super" as if figuring out how to manage your weight somehow gives you magic powers.  I've been a member for several years.  The questions are extensive... they ask everything you eat, your activity, how much you weigh, did you gain, did you lose, etc.

Ok.... so they gave us six tips these people seem to have in common and I'm thinking most people won't get past the first one.   Just like knowing the sky is blue, this first tip will be just like being told it isn't....but what if this nugget is really spot-on?  Truth is it won't apply to everyone but I'm going to attempt to explain why it might apply to way more than you think.

Let's get the next part over with (the posting of the list) so we can go ahead and get done with the screaming after reading the first rule.

Rule No. 1. Don’t ever cheat. They never give themselves a break, not even on holidays or weekends.

Rule No. 2.  Eat breakfast. The National Weight Control Registry shows that’s one of the most common traits of those who succeed in keeping those pounds off once and for all.

Rule No. 3. Get on a scale every day.

Rule No. 4. Put in the equivalent of a four-mile walk seven days a week.

Rule No. 5. Watch less than half as much TV as the overall population.

Rule No. 6. Eat 50 to 300 calories less than most people.

So rule 4,5, and 6 deal with the "stuff" we've heard forever....calories in/calories out.  For years I never ate breakfast because every day for over three decades I woke up with the idea that I would go as long as possible without eating.  Too bad no one was around to tell me in the 4th grade that I was destroying my metabolism.  So check...Rule 2 is a given. Since finding out there are about approximately 2,000 steps in a mile, most days...Rule 4, check!

Rule 5 done.  Sometimes I watch TV while I'm walking so I'm not sure exactly how that fits in.

Rule 3 is an absolute for me.  "Hello scale" every morning...it just gives me feedback and it has no special monster powers.   I'll do a "part two" in order to cover this in another post because this one is for everyone still laying on the floor from a cold faint after reading Rule 1.

My surgery was nearly 13 years ago and I've learned many, many things.  Some beliefs that were absolutes changed and Rule 1 was one of them.  I've told this before and I'm telling it again.  Early on I would allow myself my one guilty pleasure ONLY IF I was able to get 5 pounds below goal. (It was a Quarter Pounder with cheese - insert my self induced shame).   I was somehow able to stick to that but what I noticed was on the days I couldn't have it, I wanted it!  Eventually it became harder and nearly impossible to get 5 pounds below goal and after some period of time I also realized that I was beginning to forget how my "crack" meal tasted.  Then I totally forgot and I didn't even crave it anymore.  Because I stopped eating it I had successfully rewired my brain to lose the cravings.  I was also acutely aware the cravings would come right back if I ate another one...even one bite.   Um....duh.  That's sort of like quitting cigarettes and having one just for fun after 3 years.  I'll say this again too. For me, the idea of taking a bite of something to get past the craving equates to giving an alcoholic a sip of beer to stop the craving.  SOME of us can take these bites but so many cannot.

If I had a quarter for every post-op that told me the M&M story, I could take a trip to Mexico.   The M&M story you might ask?  Maybe it's because they are tiny...but the story always starts the same.  "I was doing great for 2 years, 4 years, (sometimes even longer) and I ate one M&M.  Really what could that hurt?  Next it was two then three...then a small bag, a bigger bag."  Some call it testing the waters.  They went such a long time without one single M&M and nobody died, they certainly didn't miss out on anything of nutritional value and they were doing great until they decided they could try just one. In other words they never cheated during that time and most were at the weight they wanted to be or at least smaller than after they started the M&M's.   You CAN be abstinent from sugar and junk food and it is far easier if you have none instead of a little for those that struggle with not being able to stop.

Again let me repeat....IF you can "eat just one", go for it.  I'm beyond thrilled for you!!!  If you find you are not losing or you are in the process of regain, you could always try stopping any food you don't wish to crave. Try it for a month but approach it one day at a time.  When I'm somewhere and there's a bowl of M&M's, I look at it as if it's a bowl of cyanide. Sugar put me in the prison of an obese body and at the end I would have rather died than spend another day at my heaviest weight.   And really....if you were a drug addict would you allow yourself a cheat snort once a week?

This is a great quote that applies.  100% is easy, 99% is a bitch.  Not eating processed sugar and junk food 100% is so easy but 99% leaves a ton of wiggle room.  It has became totally effortless for me to avoid these foods but please don't misunderstand.....my journey is still something I work on every....single...day.

If you still think this is utterly ridiculous, file it away for later.  My favorite quote:

• There is a principle which is a bar against all information, which is proof against all arguments and which cannot fail to keep a man in everlasting ignorance — that principle is contempt prior to investigation.

It means don't knock it until you've tried it.

And just in case you haven't seen this... I'll leave you with an oldie but goodie.. .

I finally found an article about food addiction written in a way that is easily understood by all.  Below you will find the normal behavior versus the addictive behavior.  Here's an excerpt from that section:

•  Dependence on food will be habitual, while addiction to food will be somewhat unpredictable (e.g., a morning cup of coffee versus the sudden, inexplicable drive to eat four servings of cheesecake)
•  Dependence on food will have few, if any, emotional causes, but addiction to food is provoked by emotions and circumstances that cause feelings of powerlessness (e.g., a treat to get through a trying day at work versus a binge to avoid focusing on painful thoughts
•  Dependence on food will have few, if any, emotional effects, whereas addiction to food will cause great anxiety if not properly attended to
  (e.g., being cranky due to caffeine deprivation versus feeling panicked because a planned binge is interrupted)
•  Dependence on food will cause minimal interference in other areas of a person’s life, but addiction to food will disturb every aspect
  (e.g., a love for red wine with dinner versus preferring to eat alone for the sake of overeating)
•  Dependence on food can be controlled at will, but food addiction appears as an unstoppable force in the person’s life
  (e.g., giving up pizza after noticing slight weight gain versus trying to stick to a healthy eating plan but derailing constantly; having a divided mind that seems to want opposite things)
•  Dependence on food is pleasurable, but food addiction is a torment
  (e.g., traditional Christmas cookies versus the horror one has that one has eaten the whole box of cookies, coupled with the knowledge that one isn’t done yet)
•  Dependence on food is casual, whereas food addiction appears to the addicted person to be closely tied to his or her identity
  (e.g., the guilty pleasure of Cheetos versus the shame and feelings of inadequacy that often accompany a binge)

Perhaps one of the most important paragraphs is below: (helpful to read the entire article)

What happened in this scenario demonstrates what, for many people, is the central issue of food addiction. Bingeing allows the food-addicted person to avoid dealing with threatening emotions (such as his or her perceived failure, powerlessness, or inferiority) by replacing them with guilt and shame, which are also threatening, but in a familiar, almost comfortable way. In the mind of the food-addicted person, the pivotal issue is lack of willpower. But in truth, they are using food to defend themselves against the pain in their life. By facilitating this transfer and avoidance of emotions, food has become a drug, and it is at this point that the food-addicted person needs to seek help.

Bingeing has a different meaning for most people.  When I was obese I thought it meant that you ate in the closet in the dark with a whole package of Oreos and a gallon of milk.  Of course I didn't do that so I didn't think it applied to my behavior. (umm...denial) Finally I realized that my weekend routine of buying a huge Bucket 'O Chicken and locking myself in my apartment from Friday evening until going to work on Monday morning was certainly a form of bingeing. The same thing applied to my Quarter Pounder with Cheese obsession. I'm sure the Dallas quarterly earnings  dropped significantly around the time I woke up to my dependence on this junk food.

 

Most importantly please, please, please....do not walk the path of shame.  From that same paragraph the very important part of the article... "In the mind of the food-addicted person, the pivotal issue is lack of willpower. But in truth, they are using food to defend themselves against the pain in their life."  How sad it is that we are just trying to avoid the pain of life by using food.  The problem is that it never works without paying a great price.  Ask for help, educate yourself, and know that freedom from this disease is truly possible.

Have you experienced cross addiction after weight loss surgery?  Do you think you might have a problem?

You are not alone....

My post today was inspired from an insightful blog post on OAC's site called "Risk factors for cross addiction" by Dr. Nicole Avena.

I'm nearly 13 years post-op RNY (open gastric bypass) and this subject is by far my most passionate. There are many patients who have had weight loss surgery but have no benefits for therapy or even much access to any education about the psychological issues associated with food addiction. My favorite description of addiction is "uncontrolled use despite negative consequences". That certainly described my obesity perfectly.

Every day I hear from dozens of post-ops that have no one to talk to. For those who don't live in the trenches with post-ops 24/7  there are many hidden issues that so often never reach many professionals. I have seen every kind of surgery cross addict and I believe the study about RNY and alcoholism did a huge disservice because no surgery type is exempt. (that's a long discussion for another time) Post-ops mostly cross addict to drugs, alcohol, sex, shopping, gambling and/or exercise. I have also seen many individuals get sober from drugs/alcohol and cross addict to food. Next they turn to weight loss surgery but will they ever learn where the root problem lies? Additionally there is another subset of post-ops that hide in hush hush shadows because they "look" normal.  I wrote a blog post a couple of years ago about these post-ops that pass in "normie land".  The comment section below that post has a wealth of information.  This hidden group are the ones that do whatever is necessary to maintain goal weight. One woman confided in me that she never thought she'd end up with a $200 a day cocaine habit in order to stay at goal.  WLS Anorexia.  WLS Bulimia. There is also rampant opiate abuse and it's legal because it comes from unknowing doctors (who are doing their best) and then their patients progress to doctor shopping.  Don't get me started on the diet drugs....

So many do not want to accept food addiction as real so why do I believe?  I see the same inherent characteristics as addicts.  Some don't believe there is actual painful and physical withdrawal from food.  In this video you see the brilliant Tennie McCarty talk someone through food detox.  Rarely have I seen video of Tennie crying .... it reflects the severe pain she remembered.

I'll borrow this from Dr. Phil "You can't fix what you don't acknowledge".  There should be NO SHAME in admitting you are dealing with addiction.  Addiction is a disease and the shame keeps us separate, feeling "less than", and not asking for help.  Instead of weeding out the pre-ops who show signs of addiction, I believe we should educate them at the time of surgery.  Is this an easy task?  Probably not any time soon but we have to start somewhere.  Are we going to let them die from obesity?  Even twelve years ago I gave an Oscar award winning performance in my psyche eval because I knew what they were looking for.  Fortunately for me I had a doctorate in street cred on addiction because of a severely sick family member.  I practice what I call "food abstinence" by eating healthy and avoiding almost all processed sugar, all processed foods and definitely no junk food.  Sugar and junk food might as well be crack for me and I'm not in the least bit deprived.  Deprivation is losing what I have worked hard on for 12 years.

Thank you Dr. Nicole Avena for talking about this issue.  The answers will come slowly but thanks to you and the many others who continue speaking out they might come a little sooner.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Link to story

This morning a story was featured on Good Morning America.  Chris Powell is a beautiful soul and I can't be grateful enough that he said he wasn't for or against weight loss surgery but he mentioned he has seen many after surgery for help with weight loss.  This is a misleading statement because his clients wouldn't be  WLS post-ops who kept the weight off.  The words that sent an arrow through my heart..."Brian was so busy focusing on altering his body that he didn't change his mind and that's where the transformation happens.  Then he got it. He learned from his mistake.  And then he said I'm going to do this the right way. I'm going to walk my dog. I'm going to start one step at a time."  I know Chris meant the right way was by making the transformation in his head but it sounds like weight loss surgery was the wrong way.

Chris made some excellent points that I've been talking about for years.

With every transformation we need to surround ourselves with people who love us unconditionally.

Find another purpose that feels much better than food ever did.  Always have something to look forward to more than food.

Most importantly he mentioned that after you quit getting the thrill of seeing the scale move and getting all those compliments, you have to find more happiness in service to others.

Where are the stories about those who figured it out the first time around after surgery?  We have to work just as hard every day to maintain our weight loss.  This isn't about me....it's about all of us who have gotten our lives back.  While some haven't kept it all off they are still 100 pounds plus ahead of the game.  Watching someone freed from their bed, wheelchair or walker is a miracle to me.  Seeing someone resolve their diabetes is a miracle.  Some of us have damaged our bodies so intense exercise isn't an option but there are still ways to move our bodies.

For years I've been writing People Magazine when they publish the issue about people losing half their weight.  They don't want my story because I had surgery and they really don't understand how many times we've lost half our weight only to gain it back.  Why can't they celebrate those who have kept it off period?  It is always funny when I hear how weight loss surgery doesn't work but the moment someone loses a great deal of weight quickly they are immediately accused of having surgery.

I want this post to be understood.  Brian is to be congratulated for figuring it out no matter when it was.  Chris knows how to teach people how to keep the weight off but I hope some day he'll learn more about our community. Please don't leave negative comments about either of them.

The cynic in me says no one wants to do positive stories on WLS because it just isn't good television.

Maybe some day....in my lifetime...the stigma will go away forever.

 

The original post can be found here.

 Thank you Lisa Lampanelli!  Yesterday I just happened to be watching an episode of Bethenny and even more unusual I was actually watching in real time.  The words were being said but my brain wasn't really comprehending.

"Weight loss surgery, lost 52  pounds,  healthy and happiness".  After I recovered from my shock I collected myself and backed it up and watched again....and again.....and then again.   Next I searched the internet because I usually know exactly which celebrities have weight loss surgery and found out she was announcing her weight loss surgery on that show!  She and her husband Jimmy both had the Gastric Sleeve 8 weeks apart.  Lisa was brave and went first.  A portion of the segment can be seen in video below.

Bethenny asked her why she considered surgery and Lisa said the doctor asked "Have you noticed that you don't see a lot of 70 year old people that look like you?" When asked about the cost (she self paid) Bethenny compared it to an expensive plastic surgery but Lisa was very quick to correct that assumption.  Lisa told her the surgery saved her life!

Lisa shared our typical story....tried all the diets on earth and lost weight initially but gained more after each diet.  One of the interesting parts was admitting she felt her emotions more because she wasn't stuffing them down with food.  It sounds like she's getting the necessary psychological support to help her deal with why she ate in the first place.

And even cooler.....Lisa didn't contact one of the diet plans to get paid for losing weight with their diet when she actually had surgery.

WOW a celebrity that just stepped out there and told it like it was.  You go girl!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4BJ2fNVBdHM&feature=colike 

Original Post

In June of 2010 People Magazine they wrote the first  semi positive story about WLS and I begged everyone on the OH forums to write in so we would be mentioned and WE WERE!  You'll reognize a member's name in the picture!  They only do this on the stories that get the most email.  I just posted the following on every other place I could and I'm posting it here in hopes we can do it again.  Here's the post:

Hey guys I've been fading in and out a bit because I had some surgery but this is important so don't be surprised if you see it in more than one place. People Magazine has done a positive story about weight loss surgery regarding Carnie Wilson. Some of you guys have been tough on her but you don't realize there was no education on how to use our tool back then. I had my surgery one year after hers so I can relate. Because she went first she saved my life! We have a chance to make a difference in the history of People Magazine and hit them with enough email to bring WLS out of the closet. If we send enough email we will be mentioned in the mail bag section so I'm asking you to please send an email to [email protected] and you can ask to be listed as anonymous if you want. Tell them how WLS saved your life, tell them how much you lost, tell them thank you for doing a positive story on WLS but tell them something to help remove the stigma that still exists at People Magazine and with many of their readers. Please pass this on to your friends and your friend's friends. Let's be a part of changing the stigma. 

ORIGINAL POST

 

Carnie Wilson is the reason I had weight loss surgery. Some of us affectionately call each other Carnie babies.  My surgery was about a year after hers.  In 2000 there was no aftercare and maybe a couple of places you could even discuss it online.  We forget how much ridicule Carnie had to endure going first and going so publicly.  The moment I heard about gastric bypass I made the first available appointment for a consultation.  I literally did fifteen minutes of research.

Now Carnie has decided to have a second surgery twelve years later and the comments under the online articles are so incredibly cruel. Not only from the "normies" (as I certainly expected) but also from the weight loss surgery community.  Revisions are very common so we should be accustomed to those. Many of us regain so we should be accustomed to that too.  At the very least if you don't have something kind to say... don't say it.  We have enough problem fighting the stigma of WLS without our own community helping.  Since I have been volunteering for many years I've noticed some particular circumstances that seem to cause regain.  In no particular order:

1. Having babies.  Almost every woman who has a baby after WLS fights regain.

2. Not being educated properly about the psychological aspects of our disease.

3. Being super morbidly obese before surgery.  It's just plain harder for those folks.

4. Being a woman. (Men have a far superior metabolism)

Carnie also has to do it in the public eye.  How well would you do if after your surgery paparazzi was there every time you left your house to record every pound regained or lost?  I would have crumbled. She went first so the process was a little easier for the rest of us and yet some of us pound her at the first opportunity.

She deserves to be happy with her decision.  I don't know anyone who is perfect enough to throw stones so let's give her another chance to be healthy and avoid diabetes.  I've never seen it in the "WLS life rules" that you don't get another chance.   I would really appreciate some support for her in the People magazine online article linked below. People Magazine has particularly not given us much of a chance because every time they publish the "Half Their Size" issue we are intentionally left out.  The cover says "no surgery, no gimmicks".  Aren't you happy to know we used a gimmick?

Thanks in advance for voicing your support.

Thanks in advance for not posting if you are against giving her support.

Online People Magazine article

We are so strong when we pull together and nothing would make me happier than People Magazine hearing us roar!

ORIGINAL POST

I have seen this so many times. Familiar misery is often a more comfortable place than unfamiliar happiness. When you learn something new you have to practice it. That includes being happy. I found this line in a wonderful documentary called "No kidding, Me Too".

I did the artwork and photography and added the text after.