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The things people say...
Jun 21, 2011
I'm within 3# of my surgeon's goal of 156# and 9# of my personal goal of 150#. At 5'9", that's a good number - just slightly above the mid point of a healthy BMI range for my height. I lost 17.5# before surgery, but in the 9 months since, have lost another 103.5#. I've gone from size 22/24s to currently a size 8. I do not ever remember wearing size 8s as an adult. The only other time I was at goal weight was 20 years ago and I still wore a size 9/10 then...guess clothing sizes have changed over the years.But this is what amazes me....the same family & friends who never once said to me "you know you've gained enough weight now, it's time to stop" are suddenly the experts about how much I should LOSE. I get that it's a major change, especially for those that don't see me day to day or very often at all, but I'm not doing this for anyone but myself. My goal is 150# and that's what I'm shooting for. From what I've read on the forum, it takes about 6 months for your body to redistribute the fat...so I'll maintain my goal and reevaluate down the line. If I feel it's too little, I'll add some. If it's not enough, I may try to lose more. But I'm counting on the Goldilocks approach - that it'll be just right.
In the interim, I'm going to start working out with a personal trainer three days a week (he's one of my tenants) and when I get to the one year mark, I will consider whether or not I want to pursue plastic surgery. I'd really like to get "the girls" reinflated and back up in the attic as opposed to halfway down to the basement. I work my arms out the most and the loose skin there appears to be tightening around my newly discovered muscles, so I'm hoping that will be the case elsewhere. If not, I may look into a tummy tuck. I'm not too big on the Sharpei look that's going on!
Still...I grow tired of the constant comments about my weight loss and how I look. I find it slightly disturbing (but I don't lose any sleep over it) that I get better service in stores than I did a year ago. But maybe it has nothing to do with my size and everything to do with my attitude. I am happy and I smile a LOT more. I continue to be amazed with how much I can accomplish around the house & yard, how much farther I can ride on my bike, without getting tired. In fact, it's almost like my husband & I have swapped roles, I'm now the one that wants to go farther and he wants to stop. In all fairness, he's been diagnosed with arthritis in his lower back and it takes a toll after a while. But now he's afraid that I'll find him fat & unattractive - at 215# and 6'2" - yeah, right!
I love my new life, my new body, my newfound energy and flexibility and abilities...but I wish people would knock off the "you've lost too much" or "don't lose any more". I don't recall asking for their opinion! I don't want to be known for my looks or my size, I want to be Theresa - a warm, loving, generous woman with many talents to share. Maybe this is a case of be careful what you wish for, you just might get it!
So I just keep telling people that they said when I was at my heaviest they never thought of me as fat, so at my thinnest there is no need to think of me as skinny - I am, have always been, and always will be simply... Theresa. I can't wait until the new me is the new normal!
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About Me
Dayton, OH
Location
21.6
BMI
Surgery
09/14/2010
Surgery Date
Jul 02, 2010
Member Since
Before & After
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280lbs
150lbs
