Really?

Oct 31, 2013

       Through this process I have read many things.  I have read about the surgery itself,  the issues that others before me have had, and how so many people have either  negative reactions or negative stories about the surgery.  I haven’t chosen to tell that many people about my surgery just for this reason.  I don’t need to hear why I shouldn’t have the surgery, or why my husband and I shouldn’t  have the surgery the same day.  We do have some family members who make a great effort to let us know their feelings. 

      Well, today I was asked about my Halloween plans.  When I didn’t produce a satisfactory response of major plans, I was asked about my weekend plans.  Once again I didn’t produce their desired response.  So I went out on a limb to say, “My husband and I are having surgery Tuesday, and I am so excited.”  That did stir something inside of her.  The first and obvious question was, “What for, and your having it the same day?”  I shared with her that we, my husband and I, had chosen the Roux-en-Y.  I shared with her how ready I was to be a normal size person.  She then came back with a surgery story of her own.  I have heard others talk about this happening, but this was my first experience with it.  She preceded to let me know, “Be careful, my uncle had it and died three days later, a complication from the surgery.” 

       Really?  Did you really just tell me that?  She did continue with the fact her uncle was extremely heavy, and he had the surgery when it was fairly new.  I am sure my face must have shown how dumb-founded I felt.  How do you respond to that?  “Well, thank you very much and you have a great day.”

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