cstokes80
Did you really just ask me that? (The crazy things people ask)
Apr 13, 2015
Well it's been nearly 14 months since my surgery and I have lost 103lbs. I am a petite girl at only 5'1 and currently weigh 126lbs.
I was not overweight my entire life or even half of it. It was a period of about 10 years when things just got out of control with life and no matter what I did I couldn't seem to lose the weight and seemed to be gaining at a pretty scary pace. At the time I decided to pursue WLS I seemed to be gaining 2-3lbs a month.
So to that point, people who have known me in the time before I gained the weight often said things that made me question WHY I was still friends with them. Then there are the people I met as an adult and people I have met post surgery. Oddly, in all of the groups of people mentioned they have all said something so crazy that I wonder if they could have POSSIBLY even thought before they said it out loud. I get that some people are curious but how the question is asked should be given some thought.
In the age of all this body shaming I think to myself why is ok for you to say things to someone you think is either too fat or too skinny. I have come to accept that at this point EVERYONE is going to have an opinion regardless of your size. I thought once I lost all the weight my drama with the weight comments would be over, everyone would be happy and they could all go on not worrying about how big I was getting.
WRONG WRONG WRONG.....
So, when I was bigger, people made comments about my health but only my 5yr old niece EVER said to me that I was fat (you know kids will say anything). However, now NO ONE seems to have a problem telling me I am too skinny or they are happy that I am no longer fat. Yes, they say fat, because it's ok now, because i'm not fat??????
Either, they think they are being nice or they think they are being helpful, either way..... I just can't deal with them some times.
Too get to the point of all this over the last year I have faced varying criticism of one kind or the other for either having surgery, being too fat, or now... being too skinny.
So, if you are reading this..... Prepare yourself for the kind of stupid you never though possible. Because here is a list of some of the CRAZY mess people said to me.
- You weren't that fat. (THAT FAT? WHAT??? That's like saying you aren't that ugly)
- How did you gain so much weight? Did you just stop caring how you look? (ARE YOU INSANE????)
- I hope you will be able to find a man now. (Oh thank god I can attract superficial men now! I'M SAVED)
- You have always had a pretty face. ( I think this is akin to saying good personality)
- Aren't you worried about your skin being all gross? (Well yeah but I'm willing to take that risk)
- Where did your skin go after you lost weight? (Well it's still there?? But I got lucky and I don't suffer from loose skin but thanks for asking?)
- What will you do when your boobs disappear? (Um? Well? I don't think they are going anywhere just smaller? and i'm positive I can get new ones if I need them)
- Do you have a fat twin? (WHAT IN THE HELL?????? Someone really asked me that. I was like No, that was me.)
- You are hot now, who knew? (Well, thanks. Go ahead and GTFO you thirsty fool)
- You looked better before you lost weight. (Again, thanks? but you weren't trying to talk to me then soooooo, bye?)
- You don't look like you needed surgery. (WELL THANK GOD!! that was the ultimate goal right?)
- Are you going to stop losing weight? (Nope, this is the part of life where I continue to shrink down and turn back into a baby, Benjamin Button style)
- Do you even eat? (Yeah but I choose not to be a grazing cow anymore. So if you want to see me eat, ask me to join you for lunch or something)
- Are you sick? I noticed you getting really thin. (No, not anymore but thanks for checking)
- Do you have an eating disorder? (Nope but I did.... It's called binge eating, i'm in recovery though)
- Are you going to get fat again? (Thanks for mentioning I was fat? and I certainly hope not but, I guess it is possible)
- Do you work out? ( No, NEVER! I look like this by MAGIC)
- When is your hair going to grow back, it looks terrible?? (OMG DIAF!!!!!!!! I am really sensitive about my hair. But I sacrificed it temporarily for the long term good)
- You could have lost the weight if you had just XZY (WHERE WERE YOU when I was trying to lose weight oh wise one? I never even thought about going on a diet or working out)
- Don't you think having surgery was extreme? (Nope, I had a lot of other things going on with me medically aside from the weight you can see)
- I can see your bones, you should stop losing weight. ( I am not that skinny and I'm pretty sure you should be able to see your collar bones)
- are you a size 0 now? ( let's not be crazy people. Obviously I am a size 2)
- OMG now you can shop with me at all the really cute places you didn't fit before. (STOP THERE.... I am not 15 and booty shorts aren't in my future)
Well I hope you enjoyed reading the madness and can totally relate or you are feeling more prepared for future comments...
-C
