sarah_durso
Just a little venting
Dec 07, 2011
Hi All,I've been reading a lot of your blogs and looking at before/after pictures. Absolutely amazing. I'm so proud of you all for doing this. It's not an easy decision to make.
A little background on me. I'm a military wife, and my husbands deployed. Before he deployed he wrote me a letter that said I need to lose weight for my health. To be around for my boys. To have a better life. Also that in his position as a Military Officer that men are to respect him and if they new he had an over weight wife he would lose the respect he's worked so hard to get. Fast forward 6 months to today. I received a call that there is a welcome home party and all the wives and kids of the Marines are to come with their banners. I emailed my husband to see if he wanted me to go.
This was his response.
I would rather call you and have you pick me up after I'm done with everything.
Yes, a small part of it is me being embarrassed, I'm sorry, please don't be too upset.
Really ?! How do I NOT be upset? It broke my heart. We haven't seen one another in months and he just wants me to sit in the car, where no one will see me. I wrote back, upset to say the least.
His response to that was :
| If you understood the culture of the Marine Corps you would see what I'm dealing with. Marines with overweight wives is a running joke, they even put comics in the Marine Times making fun of Marines who are married to overweight wives. I hate it, I absolutely hate the position I'm forced in, but its something I can't change. Being an officer, being a company commander, I'm in the spotlight, everyone looks to me to be the example, to follow my lead. I can't do my job if anyone has any doubts about me, however messed up and wrong those doubts are about me and my ability to do my job, it doesn't matter, because in the Marine Corps, perception is reality. With you at a healthy weight, everything in our lives will improve. But remember something very important - Its not your fault Sarah. Its not your fault. Its just life. It just happened. But we can change it. You have a solution now and I know everything will get better. I love you very much . |
So I know he loves me, it's just hard to hear. But it's just another reason I need WLS. More than anything I want it for myself. I want to love myself again. Shop in normal stores. Stop obsessing about food. I need a clean slate with food. I need to be selfish and do this for me. My family will reap the benefits.
