Just took a minute to read what your thoughts were on Dr. Courcoulas. Seems like you feel as if she let you down by not "holding" your hand immediately after the surgery. Sorry you feel this way. But she did my surgey 3 years ago. Went from 400# to 200#. Back then there were no support groups, and I wasn't aware of this site, if it was even in existence then. I'll agree with you.. right after the surgery you go through a host of emotions coupled with pain. The drasticness of the whole ordeal blows your mind!
But she was and is there to help, only you have to seek her out. I work as a nurse and people all the time expect that I know what they need to feel better, when in fact if they don't speak up, I don't have a clue. The whole office is way to busy to provide that one on one type of care. That's why it is so important to get that support elsewhere. I think you'll find as you go to more of your checkups, that if you tell her or her staff," Hey, I need to talk because I'm not sure what I'm going thru is normal", they will be there. And don't be afraid to speak up and tell them that, in a firm way. You are a consumer of what they "sold" to you. And as such you have these rights. i still see her about every 6 months and I tell her or the staff to slow down, sit down and listen when I need to. And they do
Congratulations on your loss thus far! And if you need talk, I'm around also. I'm glad you were able to speak up about not getting your needs met then. but you can have them met from now on. It's up to you.
Good luck!
Sincerely,
