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Debbie B. 20 years, 6 months ago
Debra - Best wishes for an uneventful surgery and a speedy recovery. May God hold you and your surgery team in his precious hands.
Laura M. 20 years, 6 months ago
Debra <b>~*~ To live your life in your own way ~ To reach the goals you've set for yourself ~ To be the person you want to be ~ That is success ~ Author Unknown ~*~ </b>Congratulations on making the journey of a lifetime. May God keep you safe in his arms during your upcoming surgery and throughout your recovery. God Bless...
Karen N. 20 years, 6 months ago
Best wishes and extra prayers for smooth surgery and recovery. A positive mental attitude is your best preparation pre-op and throughout the next exciting year! You'll do great with this life-saving tool*
Cathy W. 20 years, 6 months ago
I wanted to wish you well with your upcoming surgery. I hope that all goes well and that you are up and out and about real soon. I'll bet you are are doing a happy dance accompanied by a bundle of unwanted "NERVES", but don't worry be HAPPY! You are in my thoughts and prayers. Good Luck!
JOLENE D. 20 years, 6 months ago
Hi Debra, wishing you a successful surgery. God is watching over you and we are all praying for your speedy recovery. BIGGHUGGZZZZ
Lelina D. 20 years, 6 months ago
Debra, I can understand your reasons for postponing your surgery. I too, do not have a lot of support from my parents regarding my decision to have WLS. They are also morbidly obese, and have been my whole life. I have to work hard to keep my resentment in check, because I feel that if they had been better role models when I was growing up I wouldn't have spent my entire life struggling with obesity. My mother is of the opinion "Why can't you just go on another diet?" This from the woman who put me on my first diet when I was 5! I just finally had to realize that I'll take my support from wherever I can get it. I have an incredibly supportive husband who has been with me literally through thick and not-so-thick (I've never actually been thin!). My in-laws are also supportive, although they have been pretty nasty about my wieght in the past. I just had to make peace with the fact that my parents (who are in their upper 60s and more set in their ways than most 90-year-olds!) would just never be behind me on this one. I'll be surprised if they even come to visit me in the hospital (my surgery is 11/13/03). I've even made plans for some of my in-laws to come to Texas from Virginia to help my husband take care of my two girls, 2 1/2 and 4 1/2 for a couple of weeks after my surgery (this despite the fact that my parents live three blocks from me)! I understand that this is a totally personal decision, and I'm certainly not trying to tell you what to do, but there will always be people who will try to talk you out of the surgery. Even my mother-in-law, who is 100% behind me now, kept forwarding me every "horror story" she could find on WLS for the first two months after I told her! Good luck with whatever decision you ultimately make. E-mail me any time if you want to "talk"! - Lelina
Wendy G. 20 years, 6 months ago
The only one of my family that I told was my sister. She was not against it as we share everything so she knew how badly I wanted it. she was afraid for me though. My husband and children were all for it. I did have two friends that tried to talk me out of it. They even said that they would help me lose weight. Yah right, how? By crazy gluing my mouth shut? I explained to them why. That I was tired of being a prisoner in my own body and being held captive by food. I wanted to go to someone's house and be able to sit without worrying about breaking their chair. If they love you they will support your decision. Good luck and God Bless-Wendy
Donna Y. 20 years, 6 months ago
Dear Debra, Once I had my mind made up about the surgery, and a date was set I phoned all my family and notified them of my decision, I told them I was no longer wanting opinions what I now needed was my familys support. It worked for me, I let them know I had done my homework, research, and this is what I had to do for me... I know it would never apply to some of them, since they are so set against it. I had surgery Sept. 15th and am so glad I did. There was no postponing for me, I came here for my support when it was needed....God Bless........
Grace loves cats 20 years, 6 months ago
Debra- I am lucky that everyone in my life is for the surgery. But- You need to do what you think is best for YOU- You need to get healthy & happier. If you have the surgery, I bet nobody would turn against you, would they? Think about that. If they really care about you, which I'm sure they do, they'll be OK with it , just explain it's for your better health & you need to do it. Please listen to yourself. I would still have mine if my friends & family were against it. We're the ones that have to live every day in our bodies!! Please listen to your heart. Don't cancell because of others, cancell only if YOU want to!! I hope this helps. Take care, & lors of HUGS!!!! -Grace/Ca. RNY 12/5/03