Helping family understand why I am doing gastric bypass.

My family (my mother in law mostly) is very negative about my surgery. She is a worrier anyways, but she is keeps saying to me. "Why can't you do the same thing that you would do after surgery as far as eating before the surgery to lose weight"? I try and try and explain to her that it is a tool and since I will have a smaller stomach, I will automatically eat less , excersise, etc. She still goes back to WHY NOT NOW then? She is concerned that we all will be together for a holiday or dinner and I can't eat and I will be in the corner. She is worried that I will never have any of the things I love like Cake, Ice Cream, Pizza, Mexican ever again. I told her that not so much, but my focus is not on the food anymore. It is health and life change. I will learn to love other foods. How can I explain to her how others feel about not eating those foods that you love again? Or why didn't you do it before the surgery and how can you do it now? Tammy

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