Grrrrr. Frustrated at my co-workers/supervisor!!!!

I am angry right now and looking for some support. I have my first consult appointment Friday. A while back I informed my supervisor that I was considering RNY and she is against it and voiced her opinion that if I were to do anything to go with the lapband. I must mention that we are both RNs-- She carries an ADN and has 20+ years of state service. I on the other hand have a 6 years of state service but have a MSN/ED degree. I am not going into this surgery lightly I have researched this procedure for many years! I have given this a lot of time, weighed my pros/cons and even did my own statistical analysis. So, with that said. Tonight when I was receiving report I was excited and said "I go for my appointment Friday so I should have some information on when they can do it then," she went off on me (Professionally, but it hit hard.) She stated, "The surgery is dangerous, there are a lot of intestinal problems. You are a compulsive eater, it will not work and you will gain it all back! (so and so) just lost a lot of weight by eating healthy and you should check into that!" I replied, "I understand your point of view but this is my life!" My other co-worker stated, "We are just trying to look out for you! We don't want you to get hurt." So, I stated, "I respect what you guys are saying but this is my life, this is my decision and I am going to the appointments." and left it at that. After they left I had a meltdown. WTF!!! I thought to myself, "WTF do they know about me, they don't know what I have been through, they don't have a weight problem like I do. I do have a compulsion. I have been working on it. I have been trying to change.... I have been on a diet all my life. GRRRRRRRR!!!!! (big sigh) Wow, that felt good. Anyways.... Like to hear from anyone that has had a similar response and how did they handle it. Thank you in advance for your feedback.

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