Need Advice on Coping with Boyfriend's CRAZY Family

Ok, let me set the stage here. I am 9 1/2 months post-op LAP RNY. My journey has been amazing. I am loving life right now. My friend, family, co-workers, and especially my boyfriend have been AMAZING as far as support goes. Well, my boyfriend is scheduled to have his LAP RNY in 13 days. His family, on the other hand, is extremely ANTI this surgery. His mom is at least 250 pounds overweight and not only does she have NO idea what really happens with this surgery, I think she's mostly afraid of being the last fat person in her family. His dad is not overweight, but has a TON of health problems including diabetes, which is turning into a very serious problem for him right now. Neither one of them are supportive of him. My boyfriend finally got the courage today to tell them that he's having the surgery. Then this evening I get a SCATHING voice mail from his dad telling us that this surgery is ridiculous and that he should just eat right (his dad doesn't even eat right!). ANYWAY, my instant reaction was to call his dad and go off on him about his lack of knowledge about this... but I've tried educating him before and he just doesn't want to hear it. My boyfriend has support from my family (my parents are even going with us to San Diego for his surgery to offer their support), but it makes me SO mad that his parents are so anti it when they have no idea what it's about. After ALL that rambling... here's where I need advice: Do I keep trying to educate them (as I have in the past)? Or do I just shut my mouth and ignore their rude remarks? I know there's got to be others who've had to deal with this kind of ignorance and I just don't know what to do... THANKS SO MUCH!!!!!!!

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