JOEL, I HAD MY SURGERY THE SAME DAY AS YOU. I STARTED AT 300 lbs. and NOW I WEIGH 208. I'VE WEIGHED THIS FOR ABOUT 2 AND A HALF MONTHS. THIS IS DRIVING ME CRAZY, THIS CAN'T BE ALL THERE IS. I KNOW I SOMETIMES DON'T EAT RIGHT. I'M HOPING BY CUTTING OUT THE SWEET FOODS I'VE BEEN CHEATING ON I WILL START TO LOOSE AGAIN. I'M SO CLOSE TO 200 lbs. BONNIE

Harriet, I am so sorry for your loss. I cant even imagine not seeing my mom and her apporoval of the new me . But I am sure whereever she is That She Is Proud of you for who you are and the decisions you have made to better your life! She sees you now and approves of you as she always has Im sure.. I think we all have our demons with food and we are starting to slow down with our weight loss. The best thing I can tell you is drink your water religiosly and increase your protein. Try and exercise But dont give up on life im sure your mom wouldnt have wanted that.. Also know you have the support of your peers and your friends..Email if you ever need to talk but dont give up

Absolutely the number one thing in my book is the tummy tuck...right now i have upper tummy then waist and lower tummy..one of them has GOT TO GO !!! I demand it!!! By the way I had my consult with the doc who did rny on me date set is Febuary 3,2005 but i may choose doc in town since there is alot of post op care and visits

How did the consult go???

Harriet, What an awful thing to go through at all~ let alone days before you were going to see her. I can't even imagine the amount of grief you are experiencing. May I make a suggestion? (take as you will) Have you thought of grief counseling? Most hospitals or Hospice centers affer it for free - check your local paper for listings. Also - there are great therapists that specialize in grief counseling. If your insurance paid for your surgery, it will undoubtedly pay for your therapist visits. Take advantage of it honey! Also - your mother is very proud of you. I'm not sure of your beliefs, and you didn't mention them, but I am a true believer of God & heaven. She is up there right now - and is looking down on you - just beaming at seeing the results of your weight loss. She would be sad to know that her death might cause you a stumbling block. Take comfort in the fact that she is behind you 100% and always will be... God is with you, she is with you & she is happy now that she is reunited with her husband of so many years. Rejoice in that fact & continue to make her proud by getting on track with the rules. Take it slow - get back into the program at your pace. It is very important to allow yourself to grieve. And as much as it doesn't even seem possible at this time, you will get through it. Each day will be a tiny bit easier until you realize that only the happier memories are in your thoughts. God bless you Harriet, You have a ton of support here. She is so very proud of you - not to worry. Barbie 281.195.170ish