WTF?!

Hey Beth: Thank you so much for all of your kind words!! I used to be so good about updating my profile. I SUCK at it now! I have to find a way to take some minutes each day and update it. And thanks for telling me I am doing fantastic. I do not FEEL like I am. I am down about 62 lbs. I know that is nothing to sneeze at but when I hear that some people are down 70+...it kind of kills me. I am SO happy for them but so bummed about me. Plus...I am so broad shouldered that I am not going down as many sizes, either. But...enough complaining...I will try to focus on the good things! Like...when was the last time I lost 62 lbs?? Almost 10 years ago! Have a wonderful day, Beth! And thanks again! Hugs, -=Jersey Mom

I had decided to take a little time from the board too, just because of my own difficulties and the fact that I don't seem to be doing as well as everyone (and I'm not as "positive" about everything, apparently). I have taken the comments/entries out of my profile because of comments made to me. Anywho...about taking a break.... Looks like I picked a good time to do so. Chele

Chele! Hugs, Beth

But you are missed too! Don't remove anyting from your profile unless YOU want it removed. Who cares what others think of your profile? Mine might have a bit too many pics for some, but I don't care lol!

What in the world is going on??? People have made comments about things in your profile?? That is crazy. That profile is YOUR heart, YOUR journey. If someone feels it is different then theirs screw them...this is about YOU. Dawn

Awww, Chele: Please come back. You are someone else I should have mentioned by name in my first post because I always enjoy your posts and never found them to be negative. Don't let ANYONE change you or let you sway from your dynamic personality. Gotta tell you, though (and this is a COMPLIMENT...not a complaint)...I think your full-body pics were the ones that sent me over the edge pity-party-wise. I cannot believe how great you look! I mean...you weigh only about 8 lbs less than I do...and you are 2" shorter but I am NOWHERE near where you are. I mean...with those firm arms and that flat tummy...DAMN...you look WONDERFUL!! Anyhow...please do not stay away. I really, really think we all need each other. And you are a very important member of our family. Love and hugs and have a kick-ass day! Jersey Mom

I have only been coming to the board for a few weeks. I need a place to be able to gripe and whine. Where people will understand when I am not doing well. I am grateful to all of you. Please don't stay away. I need all of you to make it thru this. Thanks. Janet

Janet!!! Sarasota is my home away from home!! My parents just moved close by...we owned timeshare in Sarasota Sands for 20 years. Jo To's is one of my all-time favorite restaurants (though I cannot eat there anymore!). So great to 'meet' someone from that area. How long have you lived there? Love and hugs, Jersey Mom

Hello! Please remember that we all are individuals and our bodies react differently...some lose fast, others, like myself, lose slowly. But what I have discovered is that each day brings new surprises. and though the scales doesnt seem to be registering a loss as much as Id wish, I am still losing inches because my clothes continue to get much looser, Im walking easier, I am climbing the stairs without puffing and Im now walking half a mile on my sore legs. I get in and out of my car much easier and when we go to a restaurant and they ask, "table or booth?", I now can say "it doesnt matter!"...and Ive just bought new panties, sixe 3X instead of the 6X Id been wearing, yet Ive "only lost 4 pounds this month" according to my 3rd month checkup! my motto is CELEBRATE THE SMALL STUFF! because thats what gives us motivation..thats what keeps us on the straight and narrow, thats what feeds our hopes and dreams! This is a close group...I dont post as much as I should..but I, also, felt that I wasnt doing well compared to the others..one lady has lost 100 pounds in HER 3 months..and I looked at myself losing 38 pounds and was devastated...however, Ive relaized that I cannot compare my own unique body to anyone else's...and this is why I celebrate the small things *s* Welcome back!

Either I was in denial when I was heavier or I haven't noticed a HUGE (pardon the pun) difference in my life. My weight never stopped me from doing anything I wanted to do. But...I'm happy for those of you who are noticing changes, no matter how large or small. I will say that it is hard when I see some people eat 300 cals a day or less, not take their vitamins or exercise (or exercise to the extreme), and they drop weight like bricks and are at goal at 5-6 months post op****... but when I follow my plan to the "T" (protein, calories, fluids, exercise), I gain weight. It's frustrating and aggravating. At this rate, it seems I'll never get to goal or anywhere close to it. My foot is swollen and may be casted so I can't exercise (which is the only thing that truly helps my attitude and the way I feel during this process), and my seroma still sticks out and hurts and must be drained at the hospital again next Monday. These things put a damper on any joy I may feel...maybe not always, but sometimes. Some folks can't accept that not everyone can feel great about this surgery 100% of the time. **** ****Dislaimer: I'm not necessarily referring to anyone on this board so please, no one get your panties in a bunch! Chele