Show me your heart!!!!

Hey there Alex!! I havent posted any yet either only cause I have to have some taken, I promise I will. I have never ever been offended by you in any way. I love you all too and that is my story and I am stickin to it!!!! LOL I really do love you all, you are all a big part of my life and I appreciate all the advice I have gotten from you here. Thanks for all being exactly who you are! Thanks for posting all your wonderful caring posts Alex, you are most appreciated!!! Love you! Steph

Thanks for your love Steph It means a lot to me!!! Alex

HI Alex - that sure is easier to type than Alejandro Ok, I am not sure what happened. Sometimes we need to hush and be quiet. I did not participate with the posting of the pictures of our specific body parts but do have a few comments to share. If that is a way for others to encourage each other and gather support then more power to you, them or whoever. That type of post is not for me. The bible teaches that a woman is to be modest especially when it comes to your sexuality. This is something I reserve for only my husband. I would never blast someone for doing it as the bible also teaches that we are not to judge, only our Heavenly Father can do that. If that type of post is not for someone else, they should just move onto the next - that is what I did. I hope to always encourage and uplift with my posts. Take care and God Bless, Jen

Dear Jen: I said that I was going to open my heart and I am going to keep my word: To stand over our values and believings is not an easy task. And you are brave enough to share that with us. Yes, this is why I am apologizing here. I would like to say something here: I know that those kind of posts are funny for a lot of us. I know that they are not offensive for the majority, some would say that all of us are adults, in fact some of us could think that they could be of motivation for FEW of us. Just think about that. How many of us did participate in all of them??? I think I was the only one who showed pictures of my butt, my torso, and my legs.... Was it of fun??? Yes!!! Was it of service???? No!!!!! Did we do that with the spirit to affect somebody else??? No!!! at least not me.... That's why I felt bad, and felt that I needed to apologize. I was playing a role not positive at all to the majority of people here. You can say that it was funny but let's being realistic, how many of you were keen to expose yourselves in that way???. Yes I thing that modesty and humility some times is important here in order to mantain the armony among us. We need to be humble with our achievements and offer a lot more support to others. I want to belong to this group in order to be of service and support and offering help in the same way you are doing that for me. Thinking in that made me realize that it can´t be good something that we all can´t participate or relate to. That is my reflection. That's why I apologize, because shame of me I did not bahave with integrity to my values and true feelings and believings. It was very selfish to post here like if I was a fashion model. Here is not the place to do that. All of us here are struggling to find a new body in armony with our own dreams and desires, and needs and nature. And certainly it is of no help to look at somebody showing off their achievements when probably they didn't have to fight a brave battle as some of you have to do it. I, in no way am saying that the people who posted a picture did wrong. The wrong issue here is the way of thinking that we as a group believe is a motivation. In fact I am realizing that perhaps we, as a group, need a code of behavior. It is a fact that all the successfull groups have a code of ethics for all their members. A code that make the group feel a sense of proud to belong to that group. I would like to propose a code of ethics here.... I would like to propose the next few values for this forum if you agree with them: 1.- Respect: Respect to ourserlves, and to our peers. We will respect our differences, of thinking, feeling, believing, living, etc. 2.- Confidence: Confidence to tell what I think and to express what I feel except when what I have to tell or to express is in contradiction to the value of respect. Confidence in the group under the certainty that all of us are here to support and love each other. Confidence that we will not be atacked under the water. Confidence that if somebody do not agree with us, they will apply the value of respect in the same way we are going to apply it too. Integrity: We are going to behave as decent people, with education and values in the same way I am sure we behave at home or at church. Belonging sense: We all had our WLS almost at the same time. We are walking through this journey toghether, going through the same problems, changing our lifes for the best for us. I want all the group to be proud to belong to this forum. You can agree or disagree. I respect that. Please I don't want to break the harmony here preaching or imposing a code of ethics. Each and every one of us know what is right and what is wrong. Am I saying that we should not post threats like that any more?. Well No, it depends on each and evey member of this forum. It depends on, what we as a group, think is of our own good. It depends on what we think is a real motivation for the people here....and what is of real service for the others. Well, here we are....this is what I truly feel, and think. Once again I am opening my heart with all the risk to be punished. But you know what? I trust in this wondeful group. I trust that we are here to support each and every one. So once again, I invite each and every one of you to participate and let the others know what is important for you. If you agree or disagree. This is our forum, our WLS home. We are making of it what we deserve. And I honestly think that we deserve a home full of love and harmony and comprehention, and forgiveness. Once again I am inviting you to open your heart to the others. Jen I truly, truly respect you I expect you to considere me as a friend worthy of you. Alex

Alex, The boards are just like to TV. If I don't like whats on I flip the channel or thread. I think your last post got a very good response. I thought it was fun! This is a great board, full of wonderful people. I can't wait to see what we all look like in January. Teresa

Yes Teresa!!! This is a wonderful board. I love the people here!!! thanks for your kind words Alex

Alex, I try to read the board every day even though I post very infrequently. Your posts often touch me, make me smile, make me look at a male point of view. I've never said it to anyone on OH before but I love you and all the folks here on the January board. Robin

Hi Robin!!! Thank you very much for your love. I hope you have a lot more for all the people in this board. Believe me that I love you too. We need you Robin. I hope that I will see you more often. Best Regards Alex

Alex, I didn't get a chance to read your last post but I wasn't offended by the title. We can "CHOOSE" which post we want to read. I would hope that if someone didn't like the post they would be human enough to just "Turn the other cheek," and let things go. There is no need to blast someone if they are just having fun, simply if you don't like the topic then off to another they can go to. I hope this doesn't discourage you from posting, Alex. I've read your other posts and you have a great heart and soul. You've been an inspiration and truly you are to me what a "real" man should be, caring, sensitive, empathetic to others first, open-minded, spiritual and with that icing/cherry on top...your humor. Please keep posting, even though I may not answer them all back, I do enjoy reading them {{{{{{HUGS TO YOU ALEX}}}}}}} Kelli

Dear Kelli: I am overwhelmed with your kind words. Believe me that some times it is a hell to coexist here with me. I am a very complicated person as you can see through my last posts. Although let me tell you that it feels very nice to know that some body thinks beautiful things of one. I honestly don't think to deserve them. Thank you very much. Alex