Ughhhh

I need support. There, I said it, I asked for it directly. Here's the scoop: I was feeling good today, so I decided that I would pick an outfit and call that guy that I have been putting off meeting, and meet for a coke tomorrow with him. Ok, so I try on three outfits, have my daughter take the pics and I was going to let you all pick which outfit I should wear. I got through two of the outfits and said forget it....I still see a huge woman...ugly, fat, clothes looking awful...but in the mirror, I think I looked good....I didn't post the pics, I didn't call the guy, and I am looking for something to eat to make me feel better. UGHHHHH

What about the stuff that I sent you? I bet the purple blouse looks great on you....leave it open with a tank top underneath....you are not an ugly woman!!! Its going to take some time to get used to the new hottie inside. Let her thru, she's gorgeous and wants to come out and play!!!

Ok----do I have to b**ch slap you?!? I will if I need to-- I swear--don't try me......ok, now then.....are you kidding me ?!? (This is my version of support: shocking you back into reality --everyone else can make cooing noises at you--I'm going to tell it to you like it is!!!!): When I met my husband I was very overweight and when I married him I was at my highest EVER and he's not even a chubby chaser---it was LOVE ( and lust--don't laugh, even as a chunkster I was a total hottie ) Get that outfit on and call the man----don't worry about what he thinks of you--PUH-LEEZE---He should be shaking in his boots over what you think of him! Look at that long gorgeous hair and that sparkling wit----. Don't sell yourself short, sis. He is the lucky one. Remember: he's a man---it's all about how you make him feel (sorry fellas--we women are a bit more complex-ooooooooo. I have been where you are right now (hasn't everyone?). Don't stay in this space--remember who you are! You are the hootchie-cootchie-wonderbomb! You are the fearless gal who had WLS and dared to change her destiny!!!! Now then, get up, dust off and call the man.... I mean it! You don't want a piece of me--I'm truly feisty!!!!! Then, dish with us about how it went!!!!!! Cathy

Aww, Tiff you are so sweet and the purple blouse does look good, thanks for your wonderful words and cooing....as Cathy says...And Cathy, thanks for the straight talk. You made me laugh with tears in my eyes, cause I know I gotta do it, but it is so hard....maybe I do need b**ch slapped...but can I have a pizza first?

Marsha we all know how you feel. I still see a fat person when I look in the mirror but when I was fatter I thought I didn't look to bad..The mirror does lie! I am glad you asked for help. If you go and meet this guy and he doesn't end up liking what he see's then it is his loss and you are better off without him. Love will happen when you least expect it. I think you are a beautiful woman and he should be glad you like him.. ~~Hugs and well wishes~~ Chris

Yes, sweetie--I know.... In all seriousness ( and not to go all Dr. Phil on you), you have to believe you deserve every smidgen of happiness your heart desires. Overweight or not. As for me----make mine a goat cheese and spinach pizza! Cathy

I agree with Cathlene...he should be the one worrying about YOU liking HIM! Listen now... just stop thinking so much and pick up the phone and call this guy! And make sure to report back! Hugs, Beth

I know, I know......

Marsha sweetie, Let's see the pictures and let us help Or wear the blouse Tif sent to you. You will be just fine. He's lucky you're even thinking of meeting him. To have such a Goddess honor him with her presence is such a great gift Come on girl. Life is too short to be that serious. Jump In!!!!! You'll be glad you did. If it doesn't work out then he just wasn't good enough for you --- just remember how great you are. Sending love and hugs, Ronna

I know and you guys that responded on this thread have been such a great help to me here and earlier....My big fear is that I will plunge into feeling bad about myself again and regress, but I know I gotta take a step sometime....Thanks all...... right back