Anybody single and dating?

Is anybody on here trying to date after years of being sinlge or divorced? I was wondering how the men react when you say "oh I have 4 kids". How do we jump back into this, I don't drink so I don't go to Bars and I have one good friend that is married so going Dancing is out of the question even with my nieces that are not over 21. Any suggestions would help. Hugs, Heather 242/159/130

Hi Heather!!! I am VERY MARRIED thanks to God!!! but I am a man (or so I think).... I don't think to understand completly your message but here is my two cents.... Just wanted to say that we as men are very blind to all the odds when we are looking for our dreamed girl!!!..... Go for it!!! Alex

Alex your wife is one lucky woman because you are a real sweety... You are so funny too, I find myself smiling all the time when ever I read your post's God bless denise

Hey Denise!!! Thanks for your kind words. If you don't mind I am going to let my wife know about your message. Some times is hard for her (I'm sure although she never complains) to live with a complex man as I am.....There is much love between us....that's why we are a very integrated couple we have gone through so much stuff...but always love has succeeded....I love her with all my heart....and I wouldn't change that for nothing in this world.....well I am becoming emmotional here..... Best Regards Alex

Hi Heather I am single and NOT dating Not that I don't want to, but no one is asking me out and I haven't found anyone that I would be interested in lately. I dated MUCH more when I was heavier. I haven't been on a single date (nor have I even found a "crush") since WLS. Its funny because I thought for sure my social life would pick up post-op and it has done the exact opposite... basically come to a dead hault! So, I guess I haven't any suggestions for you, but I am in the same boat as you.

Single, barely dating and hoping for something soon!

LOL, Hi Heather! I am quite single and ready to mingle, however... I'm a bit new to it all so don't ask me for advice! :lol : But I'm here with ya!

I don't have any advice for you either, Heather. I've been divorced for almost 14 years and have an 18 year old son. I kind of put dating on the back burner as he was growing up and I was getting heavier!! Now, my son doesn't "need" me anymore, and I'm getting smaller and I don't even know how to date!!! I work, sleep and go to church.....that's my life!! Maybe the man of my dreams will walk into Krispy Kreme one day!! Hugs, Dianne

I'm not single, but I am happily remarried. My wonderful hubs and I will be married for 2 years this Thanksgiving. I just wanted to respond to the "how to jump back in" part of your question. I had similar thoughts after my divorce (married nearly 13 years the first time around). I was heavier than I had ever been in my life, my self-esteem and self-worth had been crushed, stomped on, and then peed on. LOL. I wasn't really looking around for someone new, as I had wanted to take some time just to heal. I met my wonderful hubby at church just a few months after my divorce and told him right up front that I had 3 children, and he was fine with it. I didn't let him meet them until we had been dating for over 8 months. And then it was HIS suggestion, not mine LOL. Just my opinion, but I would just put yourself out there and do things that you want to do -- have fun doing things that you like -- but don't go looking. When it's right, it'll happen.

I just ended a 3 1/2 year ldr, it was too draining on me and I've now picked up some hours at work, and with working out and other things it was just too complicated for me at this time in life. I do miss having someone but I also enjoy having some freedom to meet other people. I do have a couple of interests in mind but keeping them on the backburner since I dont want to jump from the frying pan to the fire. I want to focus on me for now get my weight down and then see where I am at emotionally. However, I did get some highlights in my hair which was a shock to see them since my hair is medium brown (used to be naturally black till I start futzing around), now I have some golden highlights and it's taking some time getting used to them..at first I wanted to color over them but now I am adjusting and I've been getting looks from guys at the gym....so I'll see if blondes or blonde highlighted people have more fun...hehehe. Just take everything in stride, perhaps take up a class at a local college in the evenings, often I have found guys that are looking to better their careers there...some nice looking ones too Coffee shops are great, if there's a grocery store that many younger people go to, then give that a try Going to the gym is also great, just strike up a conversation and get a good work out at the same time Kelli