Anyone interested in a child??

I have not been here much the past few weeks between work and my middle daughter torturing me!!! So anyway it started on the 2nd of htis month. We had a birthday party planned for Natalia who was turning 5 and I woke up to her sneaking into the cupboards at 5:30 in the morning. She pushed a chair over to the pantry and then stacked my sons firetruck on that and unlocked the doors and found fabric paints that I didnt even know existed.....well then she proceeded to paint my carpet in the living room along with 2 walls and her little brother who she woke up. I cleaned all that I could and decided she could live another day and that I wasnt going to let it ruin my day or the party even if my walls are still hot pink. So we got through that and a few days later she got into my husbands locked workroom and took out a hammer and hit my son in the front of the forhead and cut him open....he still has a goose egg. Later that same afternoon she pushed my son into the corner of a wall and he now has a goose egg to match the one on his forhead. ARRRGGHHHH does someone want another child??? LOL I am just not sure what to do with her anymore, she is craving attention but prefers the bad kind I guess. I am not sure what else to do with her aside from restraining her to her bed or locking her int he basement....any suggestions? I love her and she hears it all the time but I feel like she has it out for all of us. HELP!! Thanks for reading, I feel better now. On a more positive note I am happy to report that I am now down to 179 Steph

Hk Steph Was wondering where you were hiding. Sorry your daughter is making you Sounds like she needs some major "time outs." Don't really know what to advise other than to try and not pay too much attention to the bad stuff....put her in "time out mode" and don't talk to her. And when she does good things gush all over her. If she's craving attention that should help. I feel for you sweetie, this is tough. Congrats on the weightloss. Hang in there. This too shall pass. Sending hugs Ronna

Thanks Ronna, I put her on time outs all the time, and she has been grounded as well. Not to mention that she does get a good spanking when she needs one. I just feel sometimes like she wants to drive me buggie!! She has hada knack for it since she was a little toddler, she was always mean to my older daughter and now to my poor son too!! Thanks again. Steph

Is'nt parenthood wonderful. I raised mine and I have a couple of grandchildren that their parents would love to see me take,(at least for a little while). I have a three year old granddaughter that everyone(including her doctor) says here comes trouble when they see her. But she is so d**n cute, you can't help but laugh and love her. Believe it or not they eventually turn into teenagers. Then you really enjoy parenthood. I have a couple of those for grandchildren as well. I survived raising three daughters, and even though there are times I'm sure you wonder if you are going to, you will. I will keep on praying for your sanity and you daughters well being. By the way did you hear anything about that "young" woman in GI that died at two weeks out from WLS? Hazel

I didnt hear about her, have any info on her?? As far as who she was and all? Know who did her surgery? I figured if she was at the hospital here I would have heard... Steph

I guess Dr. Gering did the surgery. My daughter(Gering did her surgery too) told me about it. I guess everything went okay as far as the surgery. It didn't sound like there were any problems when she went home and then at two weeks she jus died at home. Kind of sounds like maybe a blood clot. That is all I know about it. But I guess she was about 20-21 with a small child. Hazel

Steph, I am sorry you are having troubles with your little one. That sounds like no fun at all. Now, I havent any children, but I really respect my own mothers parenting philosophy (and I like to think I turned out ok ) Anyway, she basically followed the rule that if we made choices, then we had to personally handle the natural consequences of our actions. So, in your daughters case, if she painted the walls, then she would have to stay and help the entire time through the entire proccess of cleaning up and painting the walls back. I know that seems drastic for a 5 year old to do... but of course, you would be doing much of the work, she would just be there helping. Understanding what she had done and that it won't magically be the same. And knowing my mom, she would have had me help bandage up my brother, and kiss his forhead, etc. Then I would have gotten a lecture on how pain feels. Anyway, I am sure you are doing a fine job as a parent. No one has perfect kids, some are just better at hiding their little terrors And, WAY TO GO on the wieght loss! Keep up the fantastic work! Take Care, Mary

Way to go on being at 179! Maybe your daughter is trying to keep you busy to keep the weight coming off. Hang in there w/ her. If she has to help w/ whatever she has messed up or banged up, she might decide it's not worth it. As a last result, you can always eventually see if there is a counselor who does play therapy to help her. It'll get better. Karla