update and question

whoops! sorry, Deborah, I called you Ladybug by accident---- I guess I also had her post on my mind! Cathy

Deborah, I totally agree with Cathy. You have to remember that 50% of marriages last after WLS. I would also recommend counseling if you do truly love him. I know how bad it hurts when you arent getting the attention you so want from your partner. I went through this with my ex, he started getting abusive and I decided that was not the attention that I wanted so to save myself I ended it. My hubby now has never said anything bad to me about my weight or appearance fat or thin, except that he loved me no matter how I looked because of who I am and not how I looked. I love him now more than ever because of who he is. I am very lucky in the fact that I have him as my best friend and #1 supporter of whatever I choose to do. Please think about your decisions and take heart how he must feel as well. I will pray for you that all will work itself out for you! Take care, Steph

Thank you all for your friendship and words of wisdom and comfort. I do love him very much and i plan on making this work to the best of my ability. thank you all and god bless this site and all you wonderful people. a special thanks to the familylife site...it is a definate plan. thanks and god bless deborah