Mean co-worker with stupid comments

Hello, all just want to vent, I have a co-worker who is overweight and lately since I have been feeling great I can wear cute clothes and put on some make-up etc.. and I go to work like this. I work at a ready-mix concrete plant and work with all Men (Some might say this a good thing ). Well this is the deal I get comments and compliments from the guys that I work with to the effect you look cute, one in particular winks at me and growls at me (all in fun) and my co-worker says stuff to me like maybe we should put mirrors around you. You are going to become so vain, and I am not. She also says stuff like your head is going to get really fat. I don't even consider myself pretty, beautiful, or anything nice looking. I can't take a compliment cause for years I have known nothing but to be ugly. So I just kind of say yeah right, don't I wish, or far from it when I get a compliment. Anyways, she makes me feel sad and sometimes finds ways to try to sabotage. Has anyone been dealing with this? To make matters worse she is my superior at work. The owner of the company is the most awesome respectable man and he will say stuff like you are doing great , or looking good and again I will respond with the above. She will just make a face when he says things like that. In anycase my point is that why are there people like this? I am trying so damn hard and this really bums me out.

FIRST OF ALL... You may have been overweight before...but you were NEVER, EVER ugly! No one with a face like yours could ever be considered ugly! Second of all...DO NOT LET THIS BIT** get you down. You should be celebrating your success and she is so obviously jealous! Instead of being humble with her, turn it around. When she says, "Your head is going to get fat" say something like, "Well, better my head than my belly!" When she tells you that you're going to become vain, reply with, "No..vanity is an ugly personality trait and I do not like being uglyhearted to myself OR to others...but that is just me, I guess." I am so sorry you have to deal with this jerk. I mean...you KNOW it is all her jealously speaking. Think about it...if you WEREN'T beautiful...if you weren't wasting away, she would not be threatened and would not say anything. So maybe you can try to look at it this way...every time she insults you think, "Wow...I must be looking FANTASTIC today!!" Unfortunately, you cannot change her behavoir...but you can change the way you react to it! CONGRATULATIONS on your success!! Focus on that!! Love and hugs, Jersey

Well said, thanks you are so right. I will try to focus on that. Now as for beautiful you are just gorgeous you go Jersey!

You're always going to run into people who are jealous of your success and try to bring you down........but you can't let them. Don't give this "dragonette" another thought. She is obviously jealous of all the attention that you're getting and striking out at you because of it. Just try and stay clear of her and remind yourself of how great you are doing. Sending hugs, Ronna

Thanks Ronna, you are right she is a dragonnette I love it

Don't pay attention to her. . . she's just jealous because you are becoming thinner and are attractive. Do what you have to because she's your superior and other than that, leave her alone. Karla

Thanks Karla

I had to learn how to take a compiment, something you need to do. It can actually be rude to not accept a compliment. Here is what I learned, very simple. When someone says something like, you look good. I answer, "thank you" That is all you need and you accept it and aren't rude. I had this pointed out by the way, by my teenage daughter.

You are right, I don't know how to take a compliment. Something I will have to learn. Thank You is a good answer. I appreciate your comment

My opinion: Pull her aside and tell her this bothers you and you would appreciate it if she did not make certain comments. Tell her you find the complements to be a bit embarassing already and when you then see her reaction, it makes it even worse. I know this will be a hard/awkward conversation to have, but hell, it is awkward/hurtful for you right now as things are, so this can't hurt. Maybe she will stop. If she doesn't stop, take it to the person above her. You should never have to take this at work, especially by your superior. This is HER issue, so it is no reflection of how hard you are working, or how attractive you are. This is her not being able to deal with it... if talking to her doesn't work then just ignore her, knowing that you are doing nothing wrong, she just has her issues and you can live and let her distroy her own life being jealous. I hope things work out, good luck! ~Mary