3 weeks to go and getting scared.

Hi All, Its been a while since I posted. Hope everyone had a great holiday season. I know we were all excited that our dates were in January and that the holidays would help it go by quicker as we would all be so involved with shopping and celebrating. I know I didn't seem to worry so much about it during that time and I even put on 7 pounds since I set my surgery date at the end of October. Now, only 3 weeks left before my date I am so scared and nervous. I know I won't have problems losing those 7 pounds, or staying on a special pre surgery diet as I currently have no appetite at all. Seems I eat when I'm depressed or happy, but when I am nervous just the thought of food makes me nauseas . To top it off my Irritable bowel syndrome is flareing up due to my nervousness and stress. Anyone else scared and nervous as our days are getting closer, and if so what are you doing to help combat your fears? If I don't get a grip on it soon I am worried that I will end up suc******* to my fears and cancelling this surgery. I have been researching this for over 5 years and deep down I know this is my only opportunity to really have a quality life. I'm tired of being on the sidelines watching life go by, I want to be a participant. So, If anyone has any suggestions or advice for me I would love to hear it. Thanks, Deb

Deb, I thought I was going My stress has me running and most all food makes me sick I am not scared about the surgery itseff I have confidence in the Doctors involved. I know all the risks and I am willing to take them to be healthy because nothing else has worked. It is not an easy road..but one I am willing to take in stride. Since you have done so much researching it would be ashame to back out. Hang in therewe are in our last days and the real us, will be shining this year...this is our year! Deborah J

Deborah, Thanks for the reply. It's good to know I am not the only one that feels like they're going . So what are you doing to overcome this nervousness? Deb

My schedule is so busy I don't have time to think about it. The food things just seems to be apart of the territory, I am mentally ready for this. I have so much to do for me I am trying to clear my calendar for the last week. I will be a bulldozer at my house. My time is coming and nothing wlase matters. See you on the other side. Deborah

Hi Deb! OMG - I am so very nervous. The only thing that I am doing to stay calm is picturing myself in a year and lots and lots of praying. I don't know if either of these will help, but I'm afraid that that's all I can suggest. I wish you lots of peace and offer my thoughts and prayers. This is our month & after all we've done to reach this point, we have to believe that we made an informed, intelligent decision. Hugs! -Pat W.

Deb, My surgery is the same day as yours and I'm starting to get nervous too. It just started yesterday. I have confidence in my surgeon and I've had many, many surgeries before so I'm not sure why I'm nervous. I think the thought of the incision is worrying me. I'm having open rny so I know I'll have a large incision. The last time I had a large incision was over 30 years ago when I had an ovary, fallopian tube and appendix removed. I was cut from hip to hip and I can still remember how painful my recovery was. I know that things are done differently now days. My neighbor just had open rny with the same surgeon in Sept. and he says that with the epidural he never felt any pain at all. I take paxil for depression and anxiety so I know that I won't totally freak out and cancel my surgery. I also have xanax for when I really need something for anxiety. Maybe your Dr. would be able to give you something for your nerves before your surgery date.