DON'T DO WHAT I DID

Hi friends, Whatever you do, don't look at the memorial page. I made the mistake of doing that and really regret it. I am having enough doubts and anxiety as it is, and it really did not help at all. Just a friendly word of warning. God bless you all and keep you. You are all in my daily prayers, and I would love to be in yours. My date is for Jan. 24. Only two weeks away! Big Hugs, Rosa

I didn't even know they had one but I won't go that's for sure. I mean not to be disrespectful but it's kinda hard to read something like that when you are getting ready to have the same procedure. Just remember some of those that were unfortunate to succumb probably had some major complications or comorbidities prior to surgery. You have have to have faith and believe that if you didn't follow through with this surgery you would be of the MANY that have died due to obesity. THere are more that die each day, month and year to complications stemmed from obesity than the surgery itself. You are in my prayers and I thank you for thinking of me in my time of need. Good Luck to you...God Bless Kelli

Hi Kelli, You are so right! My chances of dying from obesity are much higher than from surgery. Great way of looking at it. Thank you so much. Bless you! Rosa

Hi, Rosa. Recently I was looking at the main board (which I try not to do as well) and saw something about the memorium page. I wasn't going to do it, but it got the best of me and I went. I read some as well, maybe 3 or 4. But you know what? Most of them do not say that anything was related to WLS. So we don't know why they passed. Just keep that in mind. I was freaking out a little recently (today I'm calm and ready to do this in two weeks) but I went to see my primary doctor for reassurance, which I received. Also, several wonderful post ops emailed me and reassured as well! You don't know why someone is having their problems, it may or may not be WLS related. Who knows. And who even knows that everyone is truly being forthcoming with their information. We, of course, hope so but you never know. Keep your chin up. My fear, nervousness, excitement changes daily. I think that I wouldn't be human if my emotions didn't fluctuate. Best wishes. Kim

Thanks Kim. I so appreciate your comments. We are going to be just fine! I have you in my prayers. Rosa

Rosa, I could not resist temptation and I'm actually glad I went there. After reading your post, I was concerned that there would be stories about people passing as a direct result of this procedure, or worse, during it. But that was not the case. It's sad for sure, and those members family's are in my prayers, but it didn't affect my fears at all. If you read through the pages, these were people who were members and died, some from natural causes, some from cancer, some from accidents, some years after surgery, and yes, a few were from complications post op. But of the 3 post op related passings I read, they were very serious situations that contributed. It's sad and I wish this was a risk free procedure, but realistically it's not and I actually take comfort in knowing the risks and doing wvwrything I can to prevent them. I too am scheduled for 1/24, so I'll be thinking of you that day. Good luck!

Hi Roni, Someone responded to me that those who have died from WLS are heros. I so believe that. It takes so much courage. I have been praying for their families and loved ones. I am going to keep you in my prayers too. !/24 is the day we start our new lives!!! Best wishes, Rosa

I went there also. Mainly to pay my respects to the people who wanted to change their lives and took the risk to make it better. I even read alot of profiles. I spent the whole day there my second day here on the OH boards about 3 months ago. I wanted to take in all the info I could and well, death is one of them. But with life comes death. I won't live in this shell forever but I will have everlasting life!! It's o.k. to grieve and say a prayer for these people and their families. I did. God Bless, Julie

You are so right Julie. Thanks for responding. God Bless you too, Rosa

Hi Rosa, I did not know there was one on here. But, I do not want to see it, no disrespect. I know it is a reality and there is a risk of death but I have heard all too many stories. So I'd rather stay clear from that page. I feel God has a plan for us and he already knows who will and won't make it out of surgery. I am trying to stay positive and look at all the before and after pix and success stories. ~Dawn