3. Frustration Thinking

"Many of you, when faced with going on a diet or starting an exercise program, tell yourself that you cannot tolerate the frustration and discomfort of not eating your favorite foods or having to haul your ample rear to the gym. Unable to stand the discomfort of changing, you have a low frustration set, expressed in thinking that goes something like this, "It's too hard. It's easier to stay fat. I can't be bothered with exercise." So to protect yourself, you convince yourself that any type of dietary or lifestyle change is just too difficult. This type of internal dialogue is makred by constant pessimism, and you upset yourself with these limiting thoughts. One reason you persist in it is its payoff: you're avoiding frustration and discomfort. but in doing so, you're cluttering up your mind with all kinds of BS, so every time you think about losing weight, you quit before you even get to the starting line."

I was just wondering how does this have to do with WLS. We are not given the choice with this because we are put in the position threw surgery to have to adhere to rules and new ways of eating. Am I missing something herea??

Denise, Thanks for the question. This is the 10 most popular Faulty Thinkings, not all of these are going to fit us exactly. However, many people may have had this problem before WLS and that means, they haven't resolved it yet, most likely. I do experience frustration thinking even after WLS: If I walk I might cause more pain, I don't think I'm ready yet, cause I don't want to have to deal with a little more pain. You know what ? if I had just broke out of that, I would have been walking a lot more sooner, because walking actually made me feel better. I also beat myself up during liquid stage of I can't have this, I can't have that, I drove myself nuts!! I knew I wouldn't be able to have this stuff, but didn't realize it was going to mess with my emotions so much. Maybe this isn't something you had to deal with, that is GREAT!!! I've only dealt with it a little. Some of the other**** me a lot harder. I am just listing the 10. We used to have preops on here and maybe it would have helped them more, now that we are all post op maybe not so much. But I promised to list all 10 Thank you for your post ::hugs:: Cyndi

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