just blowing steam.

I just want to put a few of my feelings down, and you are such a supportive bunch I came here. I am about two and a half weeks out. In the first 10 days I went from 232 down to 210. The scale hasnt mooved since last saturday. I know its no big deal, we all go through it. The problem is this time its me. Somehow when its my stall, its a much bigger deal. ( im in a selfish mode. ) Its just such an emotional drain to be going through all of this and not seing progress. This whole thing is such a drain. emotionaly and physically. I am whiped out. I saw the similar post yesterday, but this is more than just the scale. This is interfiering with my daily life. My energy level is so low I only walk a few times a week. I still take naps. I just feel plain lazy. On an unrelated note Ive had a migrane since thursday night. light and sound make me want to scream. Elsa

Elsa, I had my surgery a day after you and my scales are standing still too. On my follow up appt, my surgeon told me NOT to make the surgery the focus of my life. He wanted me to step aside and enjoy myself. I think I needed to read between the lines. I shouldn't be weighing everyday because I, like you, get very discouraged and disappointed. However, I am told continuously by those on my home board that I shouldn't be complaining because it is normal and is going to happen. Usually within a couple of days to two weeks we should be moving again. As long as we are getting our protein and fluids in, we should be fine. I really do wish you the best because I can feel your struggle. Hopefully we will both be posting a big loss in the next couple of days. Good Luck! Beth

Elsa, ((((HUGS)))), I hear ya, i have been feeling very tired and down a lot lately too. I feel so lazy when I see how much exercise some of the others on here are doing, and I just started last week with 20 minutes on a treadmill. I wish i had the energy to walk 2-3 miles a day like some of the other January post-ops! I just dont understand why our bodys stall out so soon! It is frustrating and VERY draining, the only thing I can say is I hope you feel a little better to know you are not at all alone in this. Karyn

Thanks for the reply. I know Ill get through it, its just so mind consuming, "do I have enough protien? How much water have I had today? Will this make me dump?" Its crazy. Thanks for the support. Elsa

What you just posted also just jived with what my best friend said about the weight loss surgery. She said "you find a whole new relationship with food" Ok, if this is true, lets look at it this way. When we are young and we have our first love, we become obsessed. With food, we think about it every min. what can we eat, what can't we eat, what can we eat that we really shouldn't. Then we look at how we are affect the relationship, have we succeded this day in making it happy, did we loose a pound, did we loose an inch. We look for this every day. So now we are putting so much pressure on this new relationship we are starting to see things that aren't there. It's going to fail. We aren't loosing everyday. Everyone elses relationship is better than ours. It's going to leave us. We are going to be alone again. So we need to step back. Still pay attention to it, but don't smother it. We have to eat, we have to do that to live. But maybe plan a few days of meals ahead of time and put them measured out in the frig. We have to exercise. This might be hard, but change it up. Maybe go to a zoo and walk it fast the first time and then slow to see the animals. Or the mall. The hardest thing of all is to either not weigh or not care if the scales don't move. As long as you are doing what you are suppose to do, water, protein, exercise, and vit., you have succeded for the day. You can't have a healthy relationship if you judge it all the time or if you don't trust it. So lets trust the choice we made and the tool we have. Lts enjoy the success we have each day, simple things like remembering the vit. The rest will take care of itself.

Kristi, That's an excellent description of the process makes me crazy (although others would disagree with that). It brought to mind an incident that happened when I was on a diet and allowed myself sf pudding at night. If my daughter came home during this time, I resented it. Some of the pleasure was taken away. I remember in therapy describing myself as a 'jealous lover', not wanting to share time with anyone else. I never carried the analogy through. It does put things in perspective. Thanks for sharing. Mary in TN

Elsa, I know what you mean...I am stalled too. I feel like I am never going to get my strength back and be "normal" again. I hate thinking about eating cause everything hits my pouch like a rock. A shower takes so much out of me I lay back down. I sleep til 10am take a nap at 2. I am sorry you have a migrane, God I hope mine don't come back. I just don't feel like doing anything. except that... Deborah

Hi Elsa, Sorry to hear you have the blues. Not to repeat what everyone else said but I will share that I am still a bit low energy and its been over 4 weeks. I was not off my afternoon naps until sometime in week 3. And then my BP meds had me over medicated so now I am weaning off those and its making a huge difference. Thru my nutritionist I learned that aspartame can invoke migranes. If you are eating foods with it (nutrasweet) - and its in most sugar free foods - stop ( or cut back) for a week and see how it helps. She was even more forceful of this with me pre and post op as it can be worse with anesthesia in you and that lasts for about a month. Hope this helps in some regard....hope you feel better and know it does get easier and the weight will keep coming off. Big hugs, Tiffany

Elsa, I understand because I have been feeling the same way. The word I'd use to describe my feelings is "overwhelmed" by the entire thing. So sorry about the migraine...I hope you feel better soon. Chele

Hi Elsa, I'm there with you!! But I think Kristi said it best- we need to get this into perspective. We all worked to hard to get to this point: making the decision, working through the steps in pre-op, the SURGERY itself, and then sticking to this regime does make us a bit over focused Let's enjoy the fact we have a tool now and it will take time. Which now we all will have more it. Feel better- we're all here with you. cj