Missed everyone.. update

Well, I have had the worst couple weeks ever. 1st, I lost my job because of my "elective surgery". I am in sales and just went to a new postition after being top sales rep for 3 years. The new postition/new boss sucked and I have never been anything but the superstar around the office, so my self esteem has taken a bit of a slam. I didn't make sales goal in January being out of the office for 3 weeks. Since I am new and in probationary period, there is zero tolerance. I'm not too upset about it any longer. It's not the money, it's the ego I think. My husband has been gone for over 5 months and comes home in 3 weeks. I can't wait. We've decided that I am not going back to work right now and I can enjoy my weightloss, exercise and being a mom again. I am looking forward to it, but scared financially. I've been the breadwinner in our family for the past few years. I am feeling great physically, but having a real hard time the past week with staying on track. I found my mental hunger last Tuesday when I lost my job and really need to get focused again. I dropped 37 lbs the first 6 weeks and now nothing the past week. I've been eatting things I shouldn't and now I am worried about failure. I learned something dangerous. Nothing bothers me, not sugar, fat or anything. I need to figure out how to overcome this now by self control, not fear of being ill. I find that a huge diappointment. Anyway, wanted to touch base, I've been off the board for the past week and need to recommit, so I am coming clean and moving forward. I appreciate the support and the ears to hear me vent. I'm more angry at myself than everything, but I'm not one to wallow. I'm dusting myself off and moving forward. Hope all is well for everyone else I had a stall after 2 weeks for a week and now for a week at week 7.. is anyone else experiencing this. My date was 1/3/06 Love to all, Lisa

Sorry about the job. your boss was a real jerk. but just stick in there you can do it. i stalled for a while no i am on the move again. congrats on the weight that you lost. dave

As to the stall, yes, I have the date of 1/4/06 and seem to have stalled right now. Not overly happy about my weightloss at the moment anyway. Only 24-26 lbs. so far. I get my protein and my water. guess I am a slow looser. I asked at my last appointment and they said they like 6 to 8 lbs, a month. So guess they will be satisified. I also ago to the gym every day to at least use the treadmill, usually do weights also. Just wish I had more to do each day.

Hey Lisa- Sorry to hear about your job. Sounds like that boss would have been a nightmare to work for - you don't need that hassle! and with your work record when you decide to go to work you shouldn't have a problem finding an even better position. Re: not being bothered by any foods - I don't know how much you experimented but it isn't always the substance but the amount. I have several friends who have had this surgery done and they can eat anything in moderation - i.e. two chocolate candies but if they eat #3 (or whatever their line is) they dump. So it could be that you have limits, you just haven't pushed them yet. I know for myself I can have a little chocolate (ate one of my daughter's valentines day kisses last night - oops) and can have a few chips, but any more than that and I get SICK - yup - tested the limits on one too many Doritos the other day (ate probably about 8 over the course of a few hours) and when it hit boy was I SICK! Good luck! Eileen

Lisa, I agree with Susan. I am also an ex-Human Resource Director. What your manager did was against the law. You can file a complaint or even better get a lawyer!!! Girl you a the basis for a very good "Wrongful Discharge" case. Go get 'em girl!!! Regards and hugs, Ronna ex HR Diva

Thanks for all the support. There were some other issues with the job, and I may be seeking legal advice. I was quaranteed an account base that would consitute a commission of approximately 40K after my quarantee ended. The account base was never half that amount. I was given the reason that "accounts churn", but my argument was that the base was never there to churn at all. There is so much background. I had negotiated a sweet deal. I was making over 100K at previous job and to leave, I wanted flexiblity to telecommute via cell and laptop in the afternoons when kids would get home. They gave me this, a laptop, cell phone and guaranteed salary. My commission rate was also double the other reps. When other reps saw me leaving the office mid afternoon, the friction started immediately. Managers said repeatedly, that "this was a mistake" and they wanted me in the office 8-5. Well, if I wasn't going to have the flexibility, I would have stayed with much higher salary at other job. I was firm with the terms I had negotiated. I also had everything in writing. Regardless, when they decided it wasn't a good deal for them, they made life there hell. I had the most new revenue my 3rd month there and actually won an award and bonus. But, then getting out of the office for holidays and surgery on 1/3 screwed me for January. They kept upping my goals so it would be impossible to obtain, hence, setting me up to fail, I felt. I do have everything documented as well as all the reps performance, which I exceeded, so I will talk to lawyer maybe. It may not really be worth it to me though. I don't want my reputation tarnished. I have awesome work history, recognition and awards and I don't think this will affect that at all. Right now, I want to be a mom. I also do not hesitate to apply for unemployment for the first time in my life. I just know that upon a job offer, I will lose unemployment, so I don't know how long that will last. Thanks again all, lisa