Why am I not happy?

Kristi Sweetie, I agree with Cara. You are going through alot and all by yourself too. Go see your doctor and see if you can get a "happy pill" to help you out. It will take the edge off and help you deal with the "day to day". I've been on Lexapro for almost a year and and half and it really gave me my life back. I was really depressed and crying all the time, even at TV commercials....I was a mess. It really helps. Please check it out. Regards and many hugs, Ronna

Kristi, Just reading what you're going through with DH being away for his job, I can imagine you are just really exhausted. With 5 kids (including 14 month old twins), I wonder what in the H*LL I was thinking having this surgery right now. Oh, I know what I was thinking...that it would be better now that they are young, as opposed to when they are 2 or 3. Anyway, being tired and exhausted doesn't help my coping mechanisms...in fact it makes things so much worse. I can really relate to your post....I feel the same way (and I haven't lost anywhere near 53lbs, which I think is amazing, BTW!!). So hang in there! I'm thinking of you. Chele

Chele, I cant even imagine how hard you must have it. I only have 2, a 4 and a 9 year old. If I had to raise 5 right now after having this surgery I would be in a tailspin. Anyways I called my husband and told him I was having a rough time and he said he would take next week off and come home. Im looking forward to having 10 days with him and so are the kids. Thanks for the support and good luck with the weight loss. Kristi

I will say that I was on Paxil before my surgery and it was my saving grace, but while in the hospital they didn't give it to me and I only started taking it about 5 days after surgery. This gave it time to get out of my system and I was a mess......Some of us need the chemical balance that "meds" give us. I had to accept this a couple years ago, so definately try that. With that said, I am struggling with the thoughts that "If only I was skinnier, I would be happier". We must realize that the surgery will make us healthier, but may not make us "happier" just with the surgery alone......There were reasons that we ate emotionally...now we are without comfort food and must find other ways, healthy ways, to make us feel joy....Good luck to you Chele...and take care of yourself physically and emotionally....

Actually I meant to say Good luck to you Kristi, I messed up......but good luck to you too Chele.....and everyone.......but specifically the above was meant for Kristi

Hang in there honey, I think without your husband being there is taking a tole on you. Raising your children by yourself right now has to be hard. Taking something for depression would surely help you, people shy away from the drugs because they are not educated about them. Years ago while planning my daughters wedding I was mentaly and physically exhausted. My Doc put me on prozac and it was a miracle for me. If taked as prescribed people are not dopey, that seem to be the fear. Talk to someone and you will feel much better. I will keep you in my prayers, take care. Rosemary