Update on my Date!!

Hi Everyone!!! OK so I went on a first date Friday night. I was scared out of my mind, but was excited to take this giant leap of faith. It's been so long since I have been on a date and for me, this was starting over. We met up at a local restaurant called Eat N Park, like a Denny's place only a local chain here in Pittsburgh. When he came in the door I got a hug! Nice! We sat and had something to eat, which for me was 1/3 a cup of chicken rice soup. Yummy! We sat and talked for over 3 hours and had a great time. He is really sweet and funny and nice. He's almost 36, a lawyer, and has a daughter that is almost 7. He is also a bigger guy who has lost just about 80 pounds on Weigh****chers. He also knows all about my surgery (I put it out there from the beginning since he did with the Weigh****chers thing) and is very supportive of it. He is so different from anyone I have dated or been interested in, and I think right now that is a good thing. So after our gabfest, he asked me to go to Dave and Buster's with him this coming Friday night. I said yes!! As we were leaving, I got a kiss too. Very nice and a surprise!! For me, this leap of faith turned out very well and so far so good. I got a phone call Saturday morning to make sure I was up for the wedding (another story) and got text messages throughout the day. Also, while I was at the wedding I checked my email from my cell phone and got a few from him (3 of which were all pictures of him, his cats, and his adorable daughter) and the last one was telling me what a great time he had the night before and what a great person he thought I was. I showed my friend, who was looking over my shoulder anyways, and she just smiled. Good signs so far. We've been talking every day and night since then. Wow, could this actually be happening? I am very excited about this but I am so afraid I am going to jinx it or screw it up somehow... like Murphy's Law or something.... But I am happy I took this chance and have put myself back out there!! So for the single ladies out there, I say take a chance and hey, we all look amazing! Have a little confidence and maybe just maybe that will shine through... hopefully!! Best wishes for a bright day -- ~amber~

Amber, I am soooooooooooooooooo happy fo you. You have no idea. I am right there in the same boat and guess what I feel the exact same way. I bosted the following poem I wrote in my blog on MySpace and thought maybe you could relate. Best of luck. Kristie Feelings of sameness! Current mood: contemplative There is something to be said about the feelings of sameness.......... On one hand it's comfortable and secure, on the other, quite the opposite. It can be boring and worthless. If you're going to live your life to the fullest, what is it that would keep you from taking a chance? Why is it that feelings can make you "crazy" and how is it that they can be so out of the blue and unexpectedly sudden? That equation equals pain more often than not. When you're not prepared for them, it's scary. Your mind tells you that you're being irrational while your heart insists it knows what it's talking about. Do you trust your heart or play it safe? I tend to lean toward the right side of my brain that tells me I am being ridiculous. Being single for almost three years has made me very apprehensive and strong willed in that scenario. I laugh out loud at the people that say "It happens when you least expect it." Feelings come rushing in even when you don't want anything to do with them. You have several options when this happens. You can certainly brush them off, play it out and see what happens or imagine it was a dream. My preference is to close my eyes and hope that it passes by without too much pain. Again! When you learn to let your brain control your feelings rather than your heart you experience the wonders of "sameness" that then, starts the vicious cycle all over once again. The boring and worthless cycle of life. Learn to trust your heart. The outcome may not be what you expected, but it's worth every minute of the journey.

Good for you !!! I hope everything works out for you.I wish you the best of luck. Keep us posted!! Tammy

Amber- Ok- this is a great post. I missed your first post. First let me say how happy I am for you. I am so scared about getting back out there since my divorce in 2003. I just hope that the next person in my life is a good guy. Seems like you might have you one. How did you meet? Please keep us informed. I am for joy for you. Beth

Wow. It sounds like you and he are really building a friendship. Its hard to have a good relationship without on. You need to get a pic of him for your profile so we can all see. Sounds like you had a great time, with a great guy. Good for you. Keep us updated. Elsa

Amber Sounds like a perfect first date........Glad to hear you had alot of fun..... Keep smiling that is one way to get to a man.....Make him wonder why your smiling. Then you can go in detail.........You look great. And you are a catch...Don't you forget that........Have fun.......Suzan

Sounds like you have a real connection with this man... nice! So nice to hear a story where things like this turn out well. Thanks for sharing with us

Whoooooo hooooooooo! Go Amber, go Amber, its your birthday, whoo hooo! LOL Pretend I was singing that like a cheerleader! I am so extremely happy for you! This guy sounds amazing, where's the pictures!? Thanks!!!! Jaci

Amber: This is so-o-o exciting! It takes me back to my dating days when I first met my hubby! It is so wonderful to have a connection right away. Just enjoy it and don't worry about what will happen...go with the flow! Diana

That is sooooo cute! I am married and it seems so long since I ahve felt that giddy. You sound like a teenage girl. I know it will all work out for you. Stay positive and keep us informed so we can live vicariously through you!