Crummy Day- *Long*

Hi guys. Today seems to be really crummy- I don't know if its the Monday blahs or what, but its not the best day in the world. I'm coming to you guys for advice since you all rock and I can't really turn to anyone else. I don't want anyone to think I'm whining, its just ugh! My day first started off with me freezing and my sister in a bad mood- thud biting my head off with any question I ask or comment I make. While at the gym class, she did her thing, I did mine- none said. While there my old ag teacher, her current one called and needed my help inputting information on the field day the college hosted Saturday, so I tootle on down to the ag complex and do my job- everything going well. After her classes, she comes back and picks fights! She's wanting to do the input (never done it before), she's just taking over like I am invisible! On the way home, she threatens to leave me on the curb, kick me outta the truck, etc etc (we were car pooling today). she reluctingly drops me off so I can do my bloodwork and weigh for the monday posts.... (FYI, another 5 pounds gone lol) When she picks me up its like the coin flipped! She's happy as a lark and asks ME why I'm not talking, replying/smilinling, etc. She does this all the way home. Then, I find a wedding invitation in her glove compartment. The invitation is to a friend's mother's wedding in April. The hard issue here is that the friend used to be my BEST friend. We would do everything, go anywhere, etc way before my sister entered the picture. When my sis came to college my world shifted. My best friend was no longer my best friend (even though she claimed to be) and my friends shifted over to Julie (my sis). Around that time I also changed my major back to music so didn't see everyone, but kept in contact through cell phones. Now that Julie and she are best friends, they're doing so much more than we used to do. I mean, they're planning a spring Break vacation at Monterey and going to the aquarium... for those that don't know Monterey- its by the beach and gorgeous. when we were freshmen, the friend and I along with another friend were going to share an apartment when we transfered..... I'm no longer in the picture, my sis is. Its just really hard to deal with. Sorry, there's more! there's another friend that my sister actually HATED with a passion this past October- now they seem to be great friends, etc etc..... I'm so sorry to like shed this onto you guys, but I had to vent to someone... I just couldn't keep it in anymore. Everytime I bring this kind of stuff up with my mom she doesn't really do anything, its kinda in one ear out the other. Thanks for reading, guys, you're the best *~*Jaci*~*

Jaci, i am so sorry, but boy do I truly feel your pain. I have 3 sisters, and it has been like this my entire life if not with one then the other. I am sorry to say that I have no advice, other than try not to let it hurt(easier said than done, I know). Your sister sounds a bit immature, judging from another post you wrote about her, while you seem to be very mature for your age which only makes it more difficult, but in time things will even out. I am sorry you had such a crappy day, hope tomorrow is much better for you. (((((((HUGS))))))) Karyn

Thanks alot Karyn. As I was writing I was thinking... I sure hope it doesn't sound like I'm complaining all the time! I sure hope tomorrow's better too! I'm going to go to bed on time and relax

Jacki sweetie, I'm so sorry you had a rotten day. Sisters are hard. I know I have one too. At your age we fought constantly. We are lonly 17 months apart and there was no privacy in our home and we also went to the same university. I guess we just needed some space from each other. That's my advise to you now. You need some space from your sister. You have started a new life and she may not be comfortable with the positive changes you are making and is probably very jealous of you. So try not to let her bother you and do what you can, for the time being to keep your distance. If you're lucky like me when you're a bit older you may just become really good friends. My sister and I are best of friends and have been ever since I moved out of the house. Guess she just didn't realize how much she would miss me Anyway for right now, we love you baby! Regards and many hugs, Ronna

Thanks Ronna! I keep telling myself three more months, just three more to go then she's moving out to Fresno (Cal State school). I so happy you and your sister made up and are best buds now, that's very encouraging!

Three months will be here in no time at all. I promise, once you guys don't have to live together you will start to appreciate each other more. Well maybe not right away Hang in there sweetie! Many hugs, Ronna

Hi Jaci, I am sorry you has such a bad day! Tomorrow will be better, keep your chin up! God Bless, Jen

Jaci, Sorry you had a bad day. All of my sisters are much older than me, so we never had an opportunity for this kind of stuff to happen. It sounds like there is alot of compitition between the two of you. I can't believe your sister doesn't see what she is doing to you. Maybe giving each other some distance when possible will help. Maybe, you need to tell her how you feel. Hope you have a better day today! Leeanne