Getting a compliment......

Hi Roni! I'm sure people are noticing, but they just haven't gotten up the courage to tell you! But this is what has happened with me- I've lost 100 pounds. No one even commented (except of course fmaily, and I just passed it off as their job to tell me) on the weight loss until recently. Last week at church there were so many members coming up and saying how I was getting so skinny (ha! Skinny!) You're doing fantastic! Lightbulb! Are you wearing huge oversized clothes???? Maybe its hiding how svelte you're getting :D Jaci

Jaci, I cannot believe it, 100 ponds later and no major compliments? OMG, there is this woman that works an the building next door, but we park in the same garage and she had surgery a little over a year ago. I took the time to stop her in the garage in Sept. 2005 and I told her "I know we don't know each other but we must leave work at the same time because I'm always right behind you in the garage, I just wanted to tell you how great you look and keep up the good work". We talked for about 10 minutes and she thanks me for stopping her just to comment. But now that I think about it, it took me a couple of weeks to say all of that to a complete stranger, so maybe complimenting someone is harder than we thought. Thanks for the input. I'm not wearing huge clothes but maybe I should also change my style a little, to fit the newer body. Thanks again.

Hi Roni: Nice question!!!. Well in my case, every body around me is complimenting me about my loss of weight they have been very supportive and have cheered me a lot. I think that it is much because of the clothes I am using, I have wore pants size 50 going down on pants I think are 44. On first thoughts I felt uncofortable with the compliments but on second thoughts I decided to take them with a smile and to discuss how I did it to loose weight, generaly people are courious about the WLS, and very supportive, when I find attitudes unconfortable for me as rude questions, well I am not shame to say that I cut the conversation in that moment..... Alejandro from Guadalajara Mexico

Thanks Alejandro, I agree and not that I NEED that validation of a compliment from everyone, but I think I would feel better if I changed my style of clothes a little bit.

Oh they are noticing! And the compliments will come. Just you wait. And most importantly. How do you feel? What do you think? That's what matters sweetie. You are doing just great. Keep it up! Regards and many hugs, Ronni

I agree with the comments that a lot of people don't know what to say. They don't want to offend you by thinking you needed to lose weight, etc. And, like Tiffany said, if you've lost and gained (like me, too) several times, people are hesitant to comment. I also think that if people see you sort every 10 pounds or so, they readjust what their mental perception is of you. So, even if you've lost 50-60 pounds, their mental image is of you 10 pounds ago, not 50 pounds, so the difference is less noticeable (does that make sense??). Anyway, keep up your great work, and people will start saying something eventually (I had the same issue and just started getting comments last week). Lisa S.

True and I guess I just have to be patient with them. I just keep thinking how can they not notice 40 pounds gone? But you all are right, they notice but it's hard for people to comment on it. I guess there's always that fear of "what if I'm wrong and it just makes her feel bad". I'll wait and see how it goes. Thanks for all the input, it really helped. Roni

Yes, just lately people are starting to notice on me. They usually say something like, "have you been losing weight?" then "HOW?" ( I always say high protien and the treadmill-true). I haven't really told many that I had WLS (not a secret, just deeply personal and I don't want to talk about it all the time!). I feel it's very nice when someone notices and I think most poeple are very happy for me- Cathy