OT: DILEMMA..help

ok, so I just got a call from someone offering me a job. Its perfect. I would have my own office, make good money, get holidays and vacation times and no weekends, hours 8-4. Now comes the problem........I didnt put in for this job. Its at a place where its basiclly all men. And I know how they got my name, an ex boyfriend gave it to his boss. Who offered me the job cause he saw a pic of me and thinks Im nice looking...WTF? Anyways...my husband say NO. But if I took it we could pay off both the cars in a year and the new 4wheeler and start building our house. YEAH! There is alittle more to the story, my DH thinks my ex is trying to get close to me again and my office would be across the hall from his. But I love my DH more then anything and Im happy. He just doesnt trust me I guess. Oh....what to do, what to do? Any advice................. hugs, kristi

OK, my personal opinion is that you should turn down the job offer. Even though there is obviously no chance something would go on with the ex, I think it will cause additional stress when our lives are stressful enough right now, both individually and in terms of our relationships. Personally, if my BF was to get a job working with an ex of his, I would not be able to stand it even though I trust him. I am sure there are other jobs out there with the same benefits that you will be able to get that don't involve this sticky situation. Plus, it is totally tacky that these guys want you there because they think you're pretty (which you are, of course) and are so silly as to actually verbalize it! To me that is a red flag that some shady behavior might go on behind the scenes. Good luck, and I hope you make the decision that is right for you!! Beth

True......I wouldnt want DH working with his ex. I see your point there. thanks kristi

Hi Kristi I have to agree with Beth. This really just doesn't sound like a good idea. I understand about the money and while that would be nice, I really think there is much more to it you may not know. Plus, if the boss came out and told you he offered you the job because you are pretty, what is going to happen when you actually start working for the man? Do I smell Sexual Harrassment just waiting to happen? I think so! I say turn it down.... HTH and Good Luck!! ~amber~

Oh, didnt mention that this is a goverment job. It involves me working with Army folks......so I think they would play nice.......lol. Who am I kidding? kristi

If your husband really doesn't trust you then there is a lot of work you both need to do in order to save this realtionship. Get into counseling NOW! Get a different job. If he trusts you but it's your ex he doesn't trust, take the job. You're a grown up and can put the ex in his place. Good luck sweetie.