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Chele 
I can totally relate with you. It seems like everybody posting that they got approval in 5 days or less but it seems like i've been waiting forever. It's not that I'm not happy for them, I'm just tired. Bcbs told me they have 30 days, well Friday will be the 30th day and as of yesterday, they still have not made a decision. Just when I think about giving up and taking my chances with the weight, I have a visual of my aunt (my father's sister), she got so big she had to be in a wheelchair. At her funeral, it took like 20 men to get her super wide casket into the hearse. I don't want to die because of the weight. This is why I go on. I'm prepared for a fight with anyone who tries to stand in my way. By preparing for a fight, I prepare myself for the worse and hope for the best. Good Luck, stay strong and just hold on. Remember that you are fighting for your life and don't let nobody turn your around.
Sorry this is so long (especially after I said I would not post anymore) but I think your post inspired me to hold on. Thank you for voicing your feelings.
Lurnia.
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I can totally relate!!! I started this process around Jan of last year. I went to every monthly meeting that was required and then some. My ex-dr was in KC, MO. I went to both consults my first one got rescheduled after I was there due to an emergency surgery that he had. Went back for my 2nd consult and he told me he wanted me to lose 10% of my body weight. And that he would sent me to a specialist that would help me do this. BUT I couldnt get in to see him until Jan of 2006 and we was in Oct of 2005. But to go ahead and go to my Physic Evel. Well I went and got my physic evel done and paid the Dr. 300.00 cash cause that was going to be my out of pocket. He wanted to mail me a receipt at the first of the month. My DH bless his heart was like Ummm no way and he made him sign his name and that he received 300.00 from me on some paper that he was sending home with me on recommendations for exercise, diet, ect. He told me that my Dr. would have the recommendation for surgery within a week. Yea right 2 months later my Dr. still didnt have it and the Dr. that did my Evel wasnt returning my phone calls. Needless to say he did return it when I called and left the number to my lawyer for unlawfully with holding patient information. And plus I got my receipt at that time too. So okay now I have lost the 10% that the Dr. wanted me to lose. I call his office up and talk to his nurse. And he still wants me to go see this stupid Dr. Why??? I am the one that lost it not cause of his help. I still had 1 month to go before I could go see him. Plus I find out that at the first of the year. He will no longer be accepting my insurance. So it doesnt matter that I have spent the last 9 months with him jumping thro every hoop he could imagine for me to jump thro. And all the time and money I have invested in him. He was just going to say too bad. I now have the most awsume Dr. in the world and I know several of us all feel the same way about our Dr.'s.
So yes it does get discourgeing to hear that some people pick up a phone and the next month they have a date. Cause I have been there and I just now got my date. But believe me sweetie your day will come!!!! And when it does there will be someone on the boards that will feel the same way you did and you will be able to totally relate to what they are going thro. Just keep the faith and remember it is God's time not our own!!!
God Bless and Good Luck
Melissa
4-24-06
Yes, trust me. Read my profile and you will see, I know exactly what you are talking about. I asked my Dr. about WLS and started this process in June of last year, and I still don't even have a referral to the surgeon. I do find it helps sometimes to make myself quit obsessing over it and quit reading the boards for a while. I am so happy for everyone's successes, but some days, reading about them just makes me want to cry. It's nothing personal, and really am happy for them and wouldn't want them to not be having these wonderful things happen, but sometimes I just get frustarted wondering if I'll ever get my turn. That's when I have to turn away from it for a few days. IT's not anyone here's fault that my medical group is being a bunch of dorks, so I shouldn't feel take it out on them?
I took a break from all things WLS a month or so ago because I realized that someone who started this process the same time as I did had already had surgery and made GOAL! And I haven't even been referred. It's crazy. It's mindboggling and frustrating. Sometimes you just have to tell yourself you are doing all you can and everything will work out in time. Good luck.
jacie
Yes I can relate. It took me over two years to find a doctor who would operate on me. Then insurance approval I kept getting stuck in red tape. Other people who were much smaller than I were getting approved with no trouble. I was 405 pounds.
I found a good support group in my area and those ladies began to rally for me. At first I did not want to go to anymore meetings because they were all getting so small and I was still fat!! They began to tell me to continue to fight for surgery and just do all the silly things the insurance wanted me to do. Even though they had to do none of those things.
Find some local support if possible it will give you motivation. You can email me anytime.
Hi,
I can totally relate with what you are going through and especially what Jacie said. I remember when I had thought I had all my clearances done and handed in my paperwork to the surgeon's office. I was so excited. My hubby even took the day off so we could hand deliver the paperwork to the office for them to fax to the insurance company. I waited and called...and waited and called. and finally got a call from the surgeon's office telling me that I needed a 6 month diet documentation required by my insurance co. Well, I just went to pieces!!! I wasn't told about a 6-month diet thing originally. This was definately a STALL!! My doc said that this tactic was normal..to get the people to just quit. I bet we would all be surprized to find out how many people really do quit...It is such an emotional and phycial roller-coaster. My health started to really deterierate during the 6 month waiting period. I never had problems with high blood-pressure till that last 3 months before I got approved. I too hated to go to the boards at that time. I was so jealous of those who got their surgery dates what "seemed" like very quickly. The truth is..we really don't know what kind of trials that others have to endure also. I was hoping for a surgery in June or July...and it didn't happen till November 23, 2005. I sometimes think about what could had been..that I could had been 9 months out..instead of being 5 months out feeling like I'll never get to where I think I should be. I think this is all a self-esteem issue. The answer is to NOT AVOID this board. There are people that have been there...done that..and that can truly help you. Waiting for the surgery date reminds me of being 8 years old again. Whenever I was invited to a birthday party..I would get soooo jealous!! Everybody cheers that person on...and they get the presents too!!! I'd walk away feeling sad and envious. Then I realized..I'd get a birthday too...and it was coming!! Same thing with your surgery date..It's coming!!! Hang in there,we will be waiting with you, and cheering you on. You can do this!
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Ginger
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