In The Mirror

Hi everyone! Thanks for all the comments on my new pictures, I was so happy to be wearing a new outfit in size 22/24! I bought them right from Walmart! LOL Does anyone else have a problem with looking in the mirror? I know people seem to bring it up often... but I can't see all the changes people see unless I look at my profile and see the pictures right there! Looking in the mirror, I still fight how I'll do my hair, makeup, earrings, anything to cover up any slight imperfection. I absolutely hate this stubborn roll of a belly that won't go down or at least be even on both sides! The right side protrudes more! (I know, TMI lol) Today at the fair two people I've known forever walked up and commented on how I looked. On young child could only mutter you look... different. How do I look different! It totally sucks how I can't see eery change. If I want to see anything, I have to stare in the mirror... I'm staring forever and finally go oh yeah, my eyes are bigger, or wow, a bigger smile, but its hard to see a change in my width or neck visually. Yeah, I see the change in sizes (finally) but its visually that is screwing with my head! Ack!!!!!! AND When people comment, I can't just say thanks and go on.... its hard to take the compliment. Its hard to say you haven't lost weight so when people ask, and I say 114, they just fawn over me.. and frankly, I'm not used to fawning lol. Its just weird.... maybe I'll grow to like it, but right now, its weird and the little voice is saying they're making a big deal just to shut you up, or they're just being nice.... help me shut the voice up, please! Ok, done rambling... I am so tired , I hope this made sense lol. Talk to you guys tomorrow! Jaci

I think it is hard to see change because we see ourselves everyday. We need to be like that show "The Swan" and cover up all the mirrors for 6 weeks. Just like a baby or a puppy. When you care for them daily you don't realize how fast they grow up. Well the same is true in reverse for us. I have a love/hate relationship with compliments too. I think a lot of us do. It's like if I don't get them I get depressed but then if I do get them I feel they are undeserved and they are made only because they knew I had the surgery. It's not hard to understand why people go to a phych after they start loosing the weight huh? Dawn

Great question. I do look in the mirror and I feel more comfortable looking in it, moreso than before, but I don't really notice a difference too much. I was telling someone else that we went to Hershey Park this weekend and my daughter and I went on a ride and they snapped a photo as the ride took off. At the end, I was looking for our photos and I said out loud "there's Danielle (my daughter) but who's next to her?" Yeah, it was me It was the first picture I had seen of myself since surgery (only 3 months ago) and that's what it took for me to really see any difference. I've heard people who have lost 100 pounds looking in the mirror and not really seeing a difference and for the first time, I can really understand how that happens. Changing our self image is so much harder to do. I don't know how to do it, but I do know how I felt when I saw that picture, so my plan is to keep before/after photos around me at all times. Good luck.

Jaci, you look absolutely wonderful and I can see how happy you are in those recent pictures. To answer your mirror question......I am obsessed with looking in the mirror and constantly see changes. Its exciting! Try using firming cream on your tummy, rub upward, over and over. It will help break up the fatty areas faster and help the external layers of skin, too. Keep up the great work! Tiffany

Thanks alot Tiffany! I've been using this firming loation with extra sparkles rom Olay (LOVE glitter!) and it rocks. I'll have to do up and down though.... just been doing whatever. Thanks!!!!!!!!!! You're doing amazingly well too!!! You're so pretty!