Today (4/2) is a month since my mom's death. She had a peaceful death, made that way by the nurse and other rest home staff caring for her. Yes, she made the decision to stop food, drink and medication. Her mouth was moistened and she was turned hourly. We held her hand and I told her it was ok to go -that I understood. It's amazing how she died in a little over 24hrs after making that decision and 3 hours after I gave her "permission". She felt physically and emotionally cared for and at peace (I pray)to her last breath. Contrast this with poor Terri. 13 days she struggled to stay alive. I am certain she understood at some level what was happening. We don't really know how much people in coma understand. Did she feel emotionally cared for until her last breath?!! It must have been terrifying not being able to wake up enough to make her wishes known. Her family will always suffer with these awful memories. The weak are supposed to be protected by the strong in this society. Yet, her parents could get no protection for her. I only hope that she was indeed a "vegetable" and didn't think that it was her parents who would not protect her. My heart goes out to them. I hope her husband doesn't get away with something sinister. I hope the government who wouldn't step in to protect her will investigate her death. It won't help her I realize, but I hope her family will find comfort in justice, if warranted. Paula

What a sad horrific day for Terri and her family Our hearts go out to them all and hope they find comfort soon. Her husband should be ashamed of himself.

Debbie...your new picture is so great! It's about time! I looked at the big one on your profile and it's wonderful. Congratulations! (Your little girl is beautiful too...makes me wish I had another young one).

Hi Jill...I hope you have a happy birthday on Friday. Your mom will be looking down on you and smiling. You have your memories of sharing birthday months. I was born on my mom's 37th birthday. As a child I always was jealous that I didn't have a day for myself. I never realized that the day would come when all I would have left are 53 happy memories of birthdays shared. This year will be rough I'm sure. Happy Birthday...Paula

I wish you a happy birthday, Jill, and hope you have a wonderful day! I know what you mean about missing your mother....especially on your birthday. I lost mine 7 years ago and miss her very much to this day. It has gotten easier though.... I can remember her always reminiscing my birth on my birthday. Now that I'm a mom, I find myself doing the same thing on my daughters' birthdays! Its funny how those things go.... Please do enjoy your day and enjoy remembering her! I also wish you the best on the 7th. I hope your total knee replacement goes well and you're up and running before you know it! My birthday isn't until August, but I did give birth to my youngest on March 31 (18 years ago). She was almost an April fools baby! Take care...... Wanda