Needing Advice from the Women

I really could use someone impartial advice on this one, as, me being on the inside, I can't think straight. My husband decided to quit his job, being the primary support for my family. I have continued to work, and he has stated he would look for something part time. 2 weeks later, he finally goes looking @ 1pm today, knowing he has to pick up our daughter from school @ 3:25. We lost our insurance we he quit, so I have applied for Medicaid, but there is extra paper work that has to be submitted, and he keeps putting it off. I am at my wit's end w/this . I don't know if I am blowing it out of proportion, but it makes me want to scream and beat him!!!! Prior to this, he had been somewhat supportive with my WLS, but now, with all the health issues I am having, now is not the time to pull this crap. Any thoughts on my rant?

Oh man Erin. I am so sorry you are having to go through this. I could rant and rave and lecture or whatever words you want to put on it, but...WHAT DO YOU MEAN HE JUST UP AND QUIT HIS JOB? I am not sure I feel comfortable enough to tell you what I think of his move. Does that tell you anything? Let me know if you would like more words surrounding my opinion. haha Joan

Erin- When my hubby and I were first married, he pulled this crap several times. Trust me, threatening and beating him are only temporary solutions (no matter HOW good you feel doing it at the time). My hubby still doesn't know how close he was to coming home to an empty house...no kids, pets, me...nothing. YOu deserve to scream, rant, do a tapdance on his face!!!! Something, as I learned with my hubby, is going on deeper with your husband. Something that doesn't concern you. Please, take his hand, but do not enable him, and guide him the right way. Trust me, he knows he is letting you down, which is not making his internal struggle any easier. I am not saying go easy on him, just don't rip him completely apart (but a few bumps are allowed...) It took a few years (yes, years..sorry) for hubby to come around, but when he did, it was worth the strife it caused. I am still wary of his past record, but I am beginning to trust him more every day. Janice

Erin, I am sorry if my rant offended you earlier. I have a little experience in this field..but, Janice's advice sounded much better than I would have come up with. I will just pray that things get better for you two and that he finds a job very quickly. Joan

Erin.... My husband quit his last job, I remember exactly when, because it was 9/11. I can't recall why he just up and QUIT! The whole 9/11 thing overshadowed it, because at that very moment, we thought for sure it was the beginning of the end of the world, and the job seemed insignificant at that moment in time, KWIM? Later, I was FURIOUS, and in looking back, it started a huge ball of debt rolling and ended in a bankruptcy. Although, he did go right out, immediately, and get a new job, it wasn't enough, he took a $15,000 pay cut! It's been hard, we lost a lot, gave up a lot, sold our house, moved, bought a new house.... and we're just now getting back to "normal" but struggling financially, he's working two jobs, and I'm at home and babysitting part time for cash... For now, you can apply for Medicaid, but be prepared, it may not happen... especially since you're both under age 65 and able-bodied employable adults... you can get it for your kids, but it's difficult to get as an adult, unless disabled, unemployable, single mom, etc... (((((erin))))))) -beth